Changing Your Relationship to Shame

Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

Being Well

Education, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.8 • 2.7K Ratings

🗓️ 1 August 2022

⏱️ 59 minutes

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Summary

Shame is one of the most complex and difficult emotions we experience on a regular basis, and one that can have seriously negative impacts on our sense of self-worth and ability to experience healthy connection with others. On this episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson take a deep dive into what shame is, how it develops, and what distinguishes it from guilt and other related emotions. They then focus on questioning our assumptions about shame, which can help us identify where it comes from. Watch the Episode: Prefer watching video? You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 1:40: The biological roots of shame 4:00: Shame's ties to our assumptions about the world 7:00: Impropriety, and shame as a psychological stage of development 9:55: Distinguishing shame from guilt 14:00: Unnecessary shame, healthy remorse, and your own integrity system 21:55: Who decides what being good looks like? 25:40: Morality in the service of power 32:20: What helps us work with experiences of shame 38:25: Isolation and the value of sharing with others in some way 43:50: Working with your shame story 49:00: Shame, group belonging, and personal change 51:25: Recap Rick's Grief and Loss Workshop: We all face losses in life, from separation and disappointment to shocking, even traumatic events. Join Rick August 13 and 14 for 7 hours of LIVE, online teaching focused on learning simple, powerful practices that help us come to terms with them, heal, and find happiness again. Use coupon code BeingWell50 at checkout for an additional $50 off the registration price. Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors: Bombas designed their socks, shirts, and underwear to be the clothes you can’t wait to put on every day. Visit bombas.com/beingwell and use code beingwell for 20% off. Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Want to sleep better? Try the Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription. Ready to shake up your protein Ritual? Being Well listeners get 10% off during your first 3 months at ritual.com/WELL. Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hey everyone, welcome to Being Well, I'm Forrest Tansen.
0:10.9	If you're new to the podcast, thanks for joining us today, and if you've listened before,
0:14.7	welcome back.
0:15.9	I've been looking forward to today's episode, where we're going to be talking about
0:19.6	one of the most complex and difficult emotions that we experience on a regular basis.
0:25.4	Shame.
0:26.7	To help us do that, I'm joined as usual by Dr. Rick Hanson, Rick is a clinical psychologist,
0:31.7	best-selling author, and he's also my dad, so dad, how are you doing today?
0:36.2	I'm good, and very much looking forward to this topic.
0:39.5	Yeah, I think it's going to be a really great one, and before we get into it, I want to do
0:43.6	a couple of quick reminders here.
0:45.7	First, remember to subscribe to the podcast on whatever platform you're currently listening
0:49.8	to it on.
0:50.8	It really helps us out.
0:52.1	And then second, you can find this on Patreon.
0:53.9	It's patreon.com slash being well podcasted and for the cost of a few dollars a month,
0:58.8	you can support the show and receive a bunch of bonuses in return.
1:03.3	Then I'd also like to let you know about a new offering from Rick.
1:07.8	On August 13 and 14, Rick is going to be offering a live online two-day workshop, Ungrief
1:13.1	and Loss.
1:14.1	He's going to be exploring both what we can do to relate to both ordinary forms of loss
1:18.4	and more traumatic forms, and then offering a variety of reparative practices focused
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