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Over It And On With It

EP 499: Break Patterns of Jealousy and Comparison with Bridget

Over It And On With It

Christine Hassler

Mental Health, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Education

4.8 • 1.7K Ratings

🗓️ 11 June 2025

⏱️ 38 minutes

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Summary

In this raw and revealing coaching session, Christine Hassler coaches Bridget, a woman navigating the painful territory of jealousy, comparison, and unmet desires. Bridget candidly opens up about her long-standing struggles with being single and childless—two areas that trigger deep feelings of not being “good enough” when she sees others with what she longs for. 

 

The coaching session explores not only the emotional roots of these feelings but also how deeply ingrained patterns from childhood can skew how we view ourselves in relation to others.

Christine guides Bridget to understand that jealousy isn’t a flaw—it’s a signal. A signal that we may be projecting our own unlived qualities onto others, which can be used for self-discovery and healing when viewed with compassion. Through tools like “positive projection” and reparenting, Christine helps Bridget shift her lens from lack and comparison to abundance and self-trust.

 

This episode is essential listening for anyone who finds themselves stuck in comparison loops, struggling with envy, or feeling left behind by life's timelines. If you've ever looked at someone else's life and thought, “They must know something I don’t,” this one is for you.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you often compare your life to others and feel like you're falling short?
  • Do you feel left out or behind when it comes to relationships, family, or success?
  • Is jealousy something you were taught—something modeled in your family of origin?
  • Are you ready to reclaim your sense of self-worth and step into greater self-trust?

 

Key Insights and A-HAs:

  • Jealousy can serve as a tool for growth when reframed as a positive projection.
  • Often, the qualities we admire in others are ones we haven’t fully owned in ourselves.
  • Chronic comparison stems from childhood imprints, often passed down from caregivers.
  • Confidence in decision-making strengthens our relationship with ourselves and builds autonomy.
  • You are not less than anyone else—there is no secret formula that others have and you don’t.

 

How to Get Over It & On With It:

  • Practice positive projection: When you're jealous of someone, ask yourself, “What qualities am I seeing in them that I haven’t yet recognized in myself?”
  • Build self-trust by making confident, embodied choices—even small ones. Flex your decision-making muscle.
  • Reframe comparison as separation. Instead, use it to connect with the qualities you desire to cultivate in yourself.
  • Visualize removing the “comparison glasses” and choosing to see through the lens of truth, where your worth is not tied to others’ outcomes.
  • Work with a therapist or coach to reparent the younger parts of you that never got to fully develop autonomy or self-approval.

 

Upcoming Events:

 

Christine’s Signature Women’s Retreat


Christine is still honoring the early bird discount for her upcoming Women’s Retreat! This transformational experience is designed to help women heal the sister wound, release patterns of jealousy and competition, and experience deep, soul-level connection and support. You’ll leave with greater confidence, clarity, and connection—with yourself and with other women.
Visit christinehassler.com/retreat to register and learn more.


Questions? Email [email protected]

 

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0:00.0

This is episode 499, break patterns of jealousy and comparison with Bridget.

0:08.9

Welcome to Over It and On With It. I'm your host, Christine Hassler, and for over a decade, I've been a life coach, speaker, and author.

0:16.6

Each week, you'll hear me work directly with a caller as I coach them through a goal they want to accomplish or an obstacle they may be facing. I'll provide a blend of practical and spiritual

0:24.8

advice as well as tangible actions you can apply to your own life. Now, let's get on with the episode.

0:34.6

Hi, everybody. Welcome back to the show. If you haven't checked out my Coach's Corner episodes,

0:40.4

I've been doing some solo episodes and people really been loving them. So if you haven't

0:45.4

checked those out, make sure too, I'm probably going to do another solo episode this weekend.

0:50.7

And I do want to mention, you may notice my sound quality isn't as great as it usually is.

0:56.5

Well, my microphone broke. And I have a new one on the way and it hasn't come yet. And I didn't

1:03.0

want to delay getting episodes out. So hopefully you can deal with an iPhone microphone when I'm

1:08.0

recording this and better sound is coming. And I love today's episode

1:13.1

because we talk about a topic that is really common, which is jealousy and comparison.

1:19.6

So how many of you ever have the tendency to look at somebody else that maybe has something

1:27.2

that you want or that just for some reason

1:30.1

has a quote unquote better life than you or has it easier than you or whatever belief you have

1:36.2

and you feel jealous. You might even feel jealous of someone you're close to, a partner,

1:42.1

a kid, a best friend. And you don't really know what to do with

1:47.9

that. You don't like it, but you can't seem to shift it. Well, you're really going to love this

1:52.9

episode because I give some actionable tools to work with jealousy in comparison. Because we all know jealousy isn't useful and comparison

2:04.9

puts us in scarcity. But if we have that habit, there's a neural net in our brain, like a

2:11.2

neural tag in our brain, where we often default to that. So we've got to establish new ways of thinking to get out of that.

2:21.4

And I explain that in the episode. And, you know, I just want to have a moment of truth here and a moment of

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