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The One You Feed

Catherine Gray on Unexpected Joy

The One You Feed

Eric Zimmer

Education, Self-improvement, Religion & Spirituality, Health & Fitness, Buddhism, Mental Health

4.62.5K Ratings

🗓️ 6 March 2019

⏱️ 43 minutes

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Summary

Catherine Gray is a listener favorite guest on the show. She’s been on once before to talk about her book, The Unexpected Joy of being Sober and we received so many messages about how people loved the conversation Eric had with her. In this episode, she’s here to discuss her new book, The Unexpected Joy of being Single: Locating Happily Single Serenity. Are you single? Then obviously this episode is for you. Are you in a relationship? Then – unexpectedly – this episode is also for you! Too often, people stay in bad relationships because they’re afraid of being single, afraid of being alone. You don’t want to feel trapped where you are – you want to be empowered knowing that where you are is where you CHOOSE to be – not where you HAVE to be. So, re-framing what it means and what it’s like to be single opens up everyone’s world by bringing you to the point of choice about your relationship status, rather than the point of “panic settling” or “victim mentality” about your relationship status. Trust us, you’re going to like this one.

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In This Interview, Catherine Gray and I Discuss…

  • Her book,The Unexpected Joy of being Single: Locating Happily Single Serenity
  • That being single is not terrible!
  • How being single is a whole lot better than “panic settling”
  • That being single can be nourishing and refreshing – it has everything to do with reframing the way you see it
  • Enjoying where you are at the time
  • That there are pros and cons to being in a relationship and there are also pros and cons to being single
  • The “if-then” happiness loop that’s a moving target
  • How you get used to what you have and then you shoot for the next thing
  • Choosing your perspective on your life and counting up your gratitudes
  • That being single is WAY BETTER than being in a bad relationship
  • How people stay in bad relationships because they’re afraid of being single, afraid of being alone
  • What being a “love addict” means
  • How you need bonding with 5 people in your life – not just 1 – to be happy
  • How essential it is to like yourself in order to be happy in a healthy relationship
  • The three different attachment styles that are created in early childhood (but can be changed in adulthood): anxious attached, secure attached, avoidant attached
  • How feminism – in other words, equality – has made it socially acceptable for women to be single now
  • A thought doesn’t have to lead to an action
  • Don’t let yourself get too “HALT” (Hungry Angry Lonely Tired)

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If you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes:

Catherine Gray (First interview 2018)

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Transcript

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0:00.0

even if you are in happy marriage or relationship, you need other people to make you feel truly content.

0:15.8

Welcome to the One You Feed.

0:17.8

Throughout time, great thinkers have recognized the importance of the thoughts we have,

0:22.4

quotes like garbage in, garbage out, or you are what you think, ring true.

0:28.0

And yet, for many of us, our thoughts don't strengthen or empower us.

0:32.3

We tend toward negativity, self-pity, jealousy, or fear.

0:37.0

We see what we don't have instead of what we do.

0:39.9

We think things that hold us back and dampen our spirit.

0:43.3

But it's not just about thinking.

0:45.3

Our actions matter.

0:46.8

It takes conscious, consistent, and creative effort to make a life worth living.

0:51.6

This podcast is about how other people keep themselves moving in the right direction,

0:56.0

how they feed their good wealth.

1:12.6

Thanks for joining us.

1:13.9

Our guest on this episode is Catherine Gray.

1:16.8

And you may remember, she was actually a guest once before when her book,

1:21.0

The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober, was released.

1:24.2

She now has a new book called The Unexpected Joy of Being Single,

1:28.0

locating happily single serenity.

1:30.5

Hi Catherine, welcome to the show.

1:32.4

Hi Eric, thanks for having me.

1:33.9

It is a pleasure to have you on again.

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