Hi, my name is John Kim and I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth. I share my feelings and revelations. I believe in casual or

clinical and with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated. Let's start with a quote

caring works caretaking doesn't, but we can learn to walk the line between the two.

Melanie Beattie.

This episode is about caretaking versus caregiving. Let me explain under the umbrella of

codependency, which has been a super popular topic especially with my text.

So this has become a series and this episode again is about caretaking versus caregiving.

We as people are dependent on other people and that is okay. To an extent, there should

be some dependency when it comes to how you engage with others and how you both build that relationship

together.

The day-to-day requires dependency, but there's a difference between healthy dependency and unhealthy dependency.

Unhealthy dependency is when you start to lose your sense of self in the relationship.

At the end of the day, cod dependency is the need to be needed so much that that's what the relationship

hangs on. People who are coddependent

find their identity through the other person, their relationship or more

accurately or more accurately, the mirror that their partner is holding up.

Co-dependence tie their worth and the mirror that their partner is holding up.

Co-dependence tie their worth and value to feeling needed, fixing others, and caretaking.

They want people to feel dependent on them because it makes them feel important.

This then becomes a priority in a co-dependent life and how they start to define love.

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