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Triumph 111. Megan, welcome to the program.

Thank you.

Thank you. What can I do for you?

So I was just hoping to, I guess, get a little bit of my relationship with my sister.

So long story short, so I was just running around putting laundry and I thought I had more time.

But so long story short, I feel like she wants a relationship now, but I don't really feel like I want a relationship because she could not treat me well growing up.

Is there any opportunity or to imagine that she's going to treat you differently now that she's reaching out?

Would you be willing to find out if she'll be treating you differently would only take one or two times together with her to see if it would be different?

She lives on the east coast. So our communication is usually like over the phone and I do think that she over the phone. Do you detect any difference?

I do think there could be a difference. The thing is is that it's I feel like it's a little bit complicated. I like I knew that she didn't really treat me well, but I always just kind of pretended like everything was okay.

And so over the last year, I've just been really realizing how much like my home life, my childhood has affected me.

So I've been feeling a lot of anger just like towards my whole family. And so I've I've really gone back and forth like part of me wants to try to reach out and have a relationship with her, but I feel like I need to have a really honest conversation about things that have happened in the past.

So have that honest conversation.

You're reaching out to me. I'm thinking about it, but I've just come to start really understanding the impact of many things that happened in the family.

And I'm upset and kind of angry. So for me, it isn't just a yeah, we'll just start up. I need some acknowledging that there are things you did said that things happened.

And I need you to be honest about it on your side to admit you did it. And then I'm in a better position to let it go. Yes, have that honest discussion. Absolutely.

And I guess don't be afraid if she doesn't respond the right way, then I just have my answer that she's not someone I want in my life.

Correct. But if you say it in a hostile way, it won't go well. But I think I offered you a way to say it, which had opportunity for things to get better.

Tell her you've been suffering for things and haven't been dealing with them. And now you realize these actions hurt you deeply.

And it's hard to let them go and just get on with your life. And say, would you be willing for me to tell you some of the things I feel that you did to hurt me?

Would you be willing to hear it? See what she says, but don't sound angry or vicious or totally negative because it would be nice.

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