Can A Player Change? w/ Neil Strauss

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Violet Benson

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🗓️ 29 September 2022

⏱️ 51 minutes

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Summary

Besties, throughout September we covered all things personal growth and really checked in with each other. So the best way to end this month is by talking to Neil Strauss, a ten-time New York Times best-selling author. His books, The Game and Rules Of The Game, for which he went undercover in a secret society of pickup artists for two years, made him an international celebrity and an accidental hero to men around the world. Though this sounds a little questionable, the topic here is GROWTH, which is exactly what’s displayed here today.

This week on Almost Adulting, Violet and Neil begin the conversation by diving right into the controversy of his best selling book, The Game. Violet asks Neil to dive deep to help people understand who he was at that time and unpack the chokehold the book had on society. Of course, this isn't an Almost Adulting episode if the two didn’t talk about relationships. Neil explains why divorce was one of the best things him and his ex-wife could have ever done, leading them to having an amazing relationship today. They also discuss the common mistakes that often lead to breakups, how to move on from said breakups, and why a cheater will remain a cheater unless they mention these specific words…tune in Besties!

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Introduction
02:40 This is how lonely I’ve gotten
04:41 See you guys again at Hollywood Improv!
08:25 I get to experience being 15 years old again
11:39 The Game
17:32 What’s the dirtiest advice?
19:20 Non-violent communication
22:37 If you’re both not ready, it’s not going to happen
24:22 Getting drawn to people familiar to you
27:32 Work on yourself and improve your emotional intelligence
28:42 Can a player change their ways?
31:37 Both partner have to make the relationship work
34:12 A relationships isn’t a failure if it ends
36:18 How to create a happy relationship?
37:32 How do you move on from a relationship that didn’t work?
39:20 When you see your partner like a parent
43:28 How do you overcome being the villain?
45:35 The cheating ex
46:54 Do you believe cheaters can change?

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0:00.0	But do you believe the cheaters can change?
0:01.7	I mean, the answer is yes, but not if they say they're going to change.
0:05.3	The intent to change is not enough.
0:07.2	You need to take the actions to change.
0:09.0	So I think sometimes you need someone to completely just leave you.
0:12.8	Make you learn that you need to change.
0:15.0	It's file events and your favorite meme queen in the big said you didn't ask for,
0:19.0	but need a welcome to almost adulting.
0:23.2	Almost, you're a skeleton.
0:24.8	Almost, a skeleton.
0:27.6	Are you ready?
0:28.6	Hello, and welcome to a brand new, almost adulting episode with me,
0:33.6	your big sister, your best friend sometimes, and your host, Violet Benson.
0:39.6	Welcome to the last episode of September month.
0:43.6	Isn't it crazy like where did the time go?
0:47.6	It always feels like January feels like it's going on for three, four months.
0:51.6	Then it's like February, March, then it's like June.
0:56.6	And you're like, Holy shit, okay, wait, what were my goals?
0:59.6	Oh, yeah, not to fuck me.
1:00.6	I'm a xboyfriend anymore and fail that one.
1:02.6	Let's start over because I still have time and then boom, it's October.
1:07.6	I just, I just don't get it.
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