Hello, well, welcome to the show.

This is Emotional Badass, where Moxie meets Mindful, the call-in edition.

Our caller today is Luca.

She has a question about energy vampires and relationships post-childhood trauma. Hello, I am here with Luca for the call-in show. I'm so glad to have you, Luca. Thank you for coming on.

You're welcome. Thank you for having me.

Yay. So, what's got you calling in? What is your question, madam?

How, when you have this highly sensitive thing, you seem to, it seems to me that I attract

people that are, that want to drain my energy and worth, you know, so I know I've got a lot of trauma to still work through. And I just,

you know, I had a bad year last year and my best friend walked out on me for reasons. Anyway,

I'm just wondering, do I just need to do this by myself? I feel like people can

see the brokenness in me if you understand what I'm saying. I am so, so glad that you were willing to

submit this question because I have got some answers for you and I think

it's going to help so many people that are listening. It's a really hard truth that when we come

from a lot of trauma, it really does seem like people can sniff it out. Like we say energy

vampires. And I have said for years that they can smell us. Like our blood must smell

the best to them. Our energy smells the best to them because they find us. Yes. I know when I was

younger, I would find myself sort of crumbling, crying, sobbing, feeling like I was like a target for energy vampires that wanted to be my friend

or wanted to be close with me. But then when it was time to sort of show up and be my friend,

like really didn't know how, it kept me in cycles of feeling abandoned and feeling scapegoated

and feeling shamed. It's a very confusing dynamic.

It's a dynamic that can get so strong and it's so serious that I think it's responsible for a lot

of suicidal ideation and attempt. I think it's true and it's one of those things that

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