Hi, this is Natalie Hoffman of Flying Free Now, and you're listening to the Flying Free

podcast, a support resource for women of faith, looking for hope and healing from hidden

emotional and spiritual abuse.

Welcome to episode 91 of the Flying Free Podcast.

Today I want to talk about hurting people.

No, I'm not going to teach you how to hurt people. No, I'm not going to teach you how to hurt people. Most of us aren't

interested in doing that. In fact, most of us stay stuck because we don't want

to hurt anyone. We believe if we take steps to set boundaries or to say

no or to get free that will hurt all the people and we don't want to do that.

Most of the women I work with are coming from a stance of love.

They love God and they love their families and they love their church

and they love their friends.

Their love is responsible and steady.

These are the kinds of women that people trust

and for good reason. They show up because they genuinely care. They don't show up

only when it's convenient for them or only when they've got an urge to be nice out of

the blue. They don't show up for

others because they've got an agenda and they want something in return from the

other person. They show up because they care. These are not the kinds of people who neglect their relationships or their responsibilities.

Now, you take a woman like that after she's been burned over and over again by people who do take advantage of hardworking folks, and you

begin to educate her in the importance of taking care of her own personhood, of setting

those healthy boundaries, and of being able to say no when

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