When you react to your husband’s abuse, it can feel like you’re the abuser. When he tells you how hard his childhood was, you may feel sorry for him. When you read about personality disorders, some of the symptoms fit you. When you read about mental illness, the symptoms also fit him. Which makes you wonder… If your husband was abused, is it really fair to hold his harmful behavior against him? If he has unresolved trauma or a personality disorder, is it wrong to expect him to treat you better? And even more confusing… What if your C-PTSD sometimes mimics a personality disorder? What if your traumatic responses seem abusive? In this episode, I peel back the layers on: • The ingredients of C-PTSD • Who you can save before you become leftovers (it’s only ever one person) • The different flavors of C-PTSD and BPD • Why the reason behind your husband’s behavior matters less than a hill of beans (and what does) • A three-step recipe to recover from abuse in your own life Listen or download the transcript at flyingfreenow.com/139 FREE: I'll send you the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage. Just hop on my mailing list at flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-download. (I will NEVER spam you or sell your information.) Desperate for real help and safe people who understand what you're going through? Find out about my online education and support program for women of faith at joinflyingfree.com And, if you are an already divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, have amazing relationships, build a business or career, or even find a good man - check out joinflyinghigher.com