Building Healthy Relationships by Exploring Adult Attachment Patterns (Part 1) :: Charissa Lopez [Ep 498]
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🗓️ 18 November 2024
⏱️ 42 minutes
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Summary
Do you ever wonder why you respond the way you do to your kids? Do you feel like there are things to process from childhood but don’t have the words to explain those feelings?
Today Charissa Lopez, a Licensed Professional Counselor in Dallas joins me. She specializes in play therapy, EMDR, emotionally focused family therapy, and trauma-informed care. She is full of wisdom and the science to explain why we respond and parent in specific ways based on childhood patterns. Join us as we talk about…
- Secure attachment in the early years (ages 0-3) and how meeting our little ones needs just 30% of the time allows them to feel secure and attuned.
- Loving parental behaviors – beyond the basic needs by showing our kids delight, affection, and supporting their inner and outer exploration.
- How to repair relationships and remain a safe place for our kids.
- Dismissive attachment pattern explained.
- HOPE- a way to learn more helpful patterns and allow God to heal past hurts.
Connect with Charissa Lopez:
Links Mentioned:
- The Window of Tolerance :: Charissa Fry [Ep 260]
- Welcome Don't Mom Alone Friends! - Charissa Lopez Counseling–helpful pdfs on loving parental behaviors and attachment styles.
Related Episodes:
- Connecting Through Play :: Charissa Fry [Ep 319]
- Ages and Stages Series–The Tween Years :: Charissa Lopez [Ep 380]
- “How Do I Regulate My Own Emotions?” :: Charissa Fry [Ep 482] Summer of Mentorship
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| 0:00.0 | Hey, y'all, welcome back to the Don't Mom Alone podcast. |
| 0:10.4 | I'm your host, Heather McFadion, and this is the place where I get to walk alongside you |
| 0:14.5 | and connect you with people and resources so you know that you don't mom alone. |
| 0:19.8 | And in this episode number 498, it is the first part of a two-part |
| 0:24.3 | conversation with licensed professional counselor and my friend, Carissa Lopez. So it's like that |
| 0:31.0 | idea of repairing, I think, is actually what creates the most security in relationship, because we are going |
| 0:37.4 | to mess up. |
| 0:38.0 | And we have to get really, really good at repair. |
| 0:40.7 | Because if a child feels like I can go to my parents when something's going wrong and we |
| 0:45.3 | will find a solution, we will find resolution, we will be able to relationally get back to |
| 0:50.4 | each other and be connected. |
| 0:53.1 | That's what we need for security. Can I stay connected to a parent? |
| 0:57.5 | Carissa has joined me on this show several times before, if you remember my conversation with her |
| 1:02.2 | about the window of tolerance and how to connect with our kids through play. And she also came on |
| 1:07.6 | and did one of the episodes for our ages and stages series, |
| 1:12.1 | the tween years. |
| 1:13.1 | Well, today we're talking about a topic that she introduced me to on adult attachment patterns. |
| 1:19.1 | And they are based on our own childhood and they can impact our parenting as well. |
| 1:24.4 | And again, this is not to add shame to your parenting, which none of us need, |
| 1:30.3 | but to enlighten you on why you might be responding to your children, to the other adults in your |
| 1:37.6 | life, the way that you do. And so it's more about education. And then in the second part of our |
| 1:43.3 | conversation, which will release |
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