Hello and welcome to Happy Place with me, Fern Cotton. This is the show that questions

what it means to truly live well. Today I'm chatting to Brony Ware.

The only thing that turns a mistake into a regret is our own judgement upon it. It's

really just a matter of perspective. So every regret is a mistake, but every mistake

doesn't have to be a regret. And so if we can look back and recognise we've made a mistake,

we're already wiser than we were in that moment. And I just think, okay, well, you did

you best as who you were in that moment on that day with those circumstances. And the

fact that you can look back and recognise that it's a mistake means I've obviously evolved.

After many years of unfulfilling work, Brony began searching for a job with heart. Her

search led her to palliative care and something incredible happened. Her experience is

tending to the needs of those who were dying transformed the way she chose to live.

She wrote a blog about the most common regrets expressed to her by the people she'd cared

for. And in just one year it had been read three million times. The top five regrets of

the dying is the name of the book, Brony's written to expand on that first blog post.

And it's quite understandably an international bestseller. Reading this book personally

impacted me hugely in my everyday life, not just sort of long term thinking. I think

this subject matter is really important and extremely powerful because we tend not to

think about death. We don't like to. And we're so super distracted by everything going

on around us that we don't think about time moving really quickly. So this book presses

pause on everything and makes you stop and really think about life and how you want

to live it. This one precious life. I think that is why so many people have bought this

beautiful book. Brony has a very gentle and very honest and very funny approach to all

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