Britain’s Oldest Dominatrix: “It’s far more than whips and chains…”

Should I Delete That?

Alex Light & Em Clarkson

Society & Culture, Unknown

4.8 • 1.2K Ratings

🗓️ 29 June 2025

⏱️ 51 minutes

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Summary

Today, we're stepping into the world of BDSM...

We’re joined by the brilliant Sherry Lever, who is known professionally as Mistress Sofia. She is a 74-year-old grandmother who just so happens to be Britain’s oldest professional dominatrix.

From the outside, the world of BDSM might seem intimidating… and we certainly had a lot to learn. But Sherry breaks down the myths for us, highlighting the importance of communication, consent and boundaries within her work, to reveal the more emotional side of being a dominatrix.

She even introduced us to a very different kind of CBT (and it’s not the type your therapist offers...)

As self-confessed members of the vanilla population, we came away from this conversation with our eyes opened and our assumptions challenged - we hope you find it as fascinating as we did!

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You can read more about Sherry’s work at www.mistress-sofia.co.uk

Sherry’s book From “The Mrs” to Dominatrix - is available now digitally and as an audiobook

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0:00.0	This is the 810 to Birmingham New Street.
0:05.0	Calling at Organize to-do list.
0:09.0	Call your PA.
0:11.0	Shoot off a few emails.
0:13.0	Close laptop.
0:15.0	Head to the shop.
0:17.0	Man behind the counter seems like a good egg.
0:20.0	Thinking of eggs. One breakfast butty please.
0:24.8	Business travel by train is time well spent with the Vanti West Coast.
0:34.7	Hello, I'm Sherry and I'm a 74-year-old dominatrix.
0:41.0	Hello and welcome back to Should I Delete That.
0:43.1	Today on the podcast we are speaking to Sherry Lever, who is known professionally as Mistress Sophia.
0:49.1	At 74 years old, she is said to be Britain's oldest dominatrix.
0:53.5	Sherry told us how she became a dominatrix,
0:55.6	the importance of boundaries and consent in her work, how being a dominatrix is much more than
1:00.8	wits and chains, and how she often takes on the role of therapist for her subs. She even introduced
1:07.5	us to a very different kind of CBT, and it's not the type your therapist usually
1:12.7	offers. As self-confessed members of the vanilla population, we came away from this conversation
1:17.5	with our eyes wide open and our assumptions challenged. We hope you find it as fascinating as we did.
1:24.9	Here's Sherry. We are so excited that you've come to talk to us. Thank you so
1:31.4	much. It's pleasure. I guess I need to start at the beginning and ask how you got into this
1:36.8	line of work. After my third marriage breakup, and that's when I decided it wasn't for me, I was left financially embarrassed, let's say,
	...

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