Good evening, everybody. Welcome to the show. I'm going to be talking about something really important today, something that, well, it's meaningful for any of those that want to be or currently are in a romantic relationship. We're talking about how to bring the spark back, also known as how to not let the spark go. So this is something that you might want to think about preventatively, or it might be something that's going to be a necessary

fix. So we'll be talking about that. And of course, we'll be doing some DMs. So if you got a question

for us, drop in the DMs on our love LED IG page, whatever you're wondering about. We got an answer for

you. So put them in there. Always anonymous, always confidential. Just drop it in there. We'll decide decide if it's worth putting on the show when in doubt ask it out you know um which is actually a dating

tip i tell people when in doubt go find out when in doubt ask them out you never know we know from

the research you got to have an experience of someone those searchable qualities the details we can

list in a profile are meaningless self-report which is what that's based on, talking about yourself is one of the

least reliable methods. So go have an experience of someone if you think they're attractive,

but we're not talking about that tonight. So let's get into the topic. How do I bring that spark back,

that magic, that chemistry, that fire? Well, surprise. I'm going to give you the Cliff Note version before

we get into the more expanded version. Don't ever let it go. Oh yeah. But here's the other part.

You got to first have it. If you don't have it, it's very possible it's not going to emerge.

So build committed and monogamous relationships with people that you have sexual compatibility and chemistry with.

So let's get into the main topic.

If you're in a relationship with someone, it doesn't matter at what stage.

And all of a sudden, you feel as though that spark is gone.

And again, we're operating from the idea that it was there at some point.

If it was never there, I can't make it there.

I can't get it there.

I can't put it there.

Even as a certified sex therapist, one of a few hundred in the world who's written books

on this topic and done this work for two decades, I can't create a spark that's not

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