Psychology in Seattle.

So, Burto, I thought we would record a episode in which we listen to our favorite songs and talk about them and also

answer some questions from the listeners what do you say? That sounds so fun?

This is the psychology that was said with a lot of enthusiasm.

I'm excited about this one.

This is the psychology in Seattle podcast.

I'm your host, Dr. Kirk Konda, I'm a therapist, a professor, and someone who loves music, who are you on Umberto. My name is Umberto

Castagni and I'm a digital librarian. So let's get into us. Well let's answer a question from a listener. Anonymous patron writes, I love the

podcast you inspired me to attempt to become a psychologist. So that's pretty

amazing. But they failed apparently. I went through a bad breakup recently and noticed you've never done an episode on breakups

Specifically Berto what do you think? breakups specifically.

Burto, what do you think?

Breakups are a big trigger, a big deal, you know, your first big breakup or your 10th or

12th.

Yeah, actually I'm surprised we haven't talked more about it.

Yeah, I mean we've talked about it in terms of abandonment and personality and attachment,

but I guess I've never titled an episode

breakup I mean loss and grief is a major thing It can be extremely devastating to be broken up with, particularly if you suffer

from insecure attachment. You actually benefit if you're a voidant attachment because you've learned to avoid relationships from the beginning and so when people break up with you you very quickly can rely on your attachment style to just say well I don't need other people I'm fine I see

But the grief can last for years and people will say how do I let go of these feelings how do I move on and what I say is why are you

trying to do something that's impossible it's like saying I don't want to die. How do I avoid dying? Yeah. Or I don't want to pay taxes. How do I avoid taxes?

You can't you can't avoid it. You know, it's something that you need to do with life when you are broken up with when your pet dies, when your loved ones die when you move to another place when you get fired.

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