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The Gray Area with Sean Illing

Breaking our family patterns

The Gray Area with Sean Illing

Vox Media Podcast Network

Society & Culture, News, Politics, News Commentary, Philosophy

4.610.8K Ratings

🗓️ 2 March 2023

⏱️ 60 minutes

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Summary

Sean Illing speaks with marriage and family therapist Vienna Pharaon, whose new book The Origins of You aims to help us identify and heal the wounds that originated from our family, which shape our patterns of behavior in relationships and throughout our lives. Sean and Vienna talk about how we can spot and name our "origin wounds," discuss practical wisdom to help break free from the ways these pains grip us, and Sean directly confronts some real issues from his upbringing and family life. Host: Sean Illing (@seanilling), host, The Gray Area Guest: Vienna Pharaon (@mindfulmft), marriage & family therapist; author References: The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love by Vienna Pharaon (G.P. Putnam's Sons; 2023) When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress by Dr. Gabor Maté (Wiley; 2011) Enjoyed this episode? Rate The Gray Area ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ and leave a review on Apple Podcasts. Subscribe for free. Be the first to hear the next episode of The Gray Area. Subscribe in your favorite podcast app. Support The Gray Area by making a financial contribution to Vox! bit.ly/givepodcasts This episode was made by: Producer: Erikk Geannikis Engineer: Patrick Boyd Editorial Director, Vox Talk: A.M. Hall Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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If I told you that the way you grew up, your family situation, your environment, all of it,

1:26.2

had an enormous impact on who you are today. You'd probably say, well, yeah, obviously.

1:33.8

You don't need a psychology degree to connect those dots. But what if I told you that the way

1:39.4

you grew up might be the most significant influence on your romantic relationships as an adult?

1:46.8

On some level, this may not be all that surprising either, since who we are as individuals

1:52.8

determines who we are as partners or spouses, how could it not?

1:59.0

Still, even if the basic idea here is clear enough, I'm not sure most of us appreciate

2:05.5

just how much the past influences our present. The reality is that so much of our personality,

2:13.9

how we think, what we expect from other people, what we expect from ourselves, is shaped very early

2:21.2

by the people we love and rely on the most. So, if you want to understand why you do what you do,

2:29.8

or why you often don't do what you wish you did, it helps to look back at your life and find

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