Breaking Family Drinking Patterns to Be a Better Husband | Gavin's Naked Life | E842

This Naked Mind Podcast

Annie Grace

Mental Health, Education, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness

4.7 • 2.7K Ratings

🗓️ 4 October 2025

⏱️ 51 minutes

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Trigger Warning: This episode discusses suicide, grief, loss, and mental health struggles. If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please contact the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (call or text 988) in the US or visit your local emergency room. Listen with care. What if the very thing you swore you'd never do became your biggest crutch? Gavin spent his childhood hating alcohol, watching it tear his family apart and promising he'd never touch it. But by his teens, he was drinking until sunrise, following the exact patterns he'd despised. Years later, married and successful, Gavin realized his wife deserved better—not because she complained, but because he knew deep down he wasn't showing up as his best self. When he began questioning how quitting drinking can improve a relationship, everything shifted. Through This Naked Mind, Gavin discovered he'd built an entire personality around alcohol, hiding his true introverted nature behind the need to be the "life of the party." In this episode, Gavin joins Annie to share how breaking generational drinking patterns allowed him to become the husband he always wanted to be. In this episode, Coach Cole and Gavin discuss: Growing up in a family where generational drinking was normalized Hating alcohol as a child but following the same patterns as a teen Building a people-pleasing personality that only existed with alcohol Discovering he was actually an introvert hiding behind drinking The moment he asked himself if he was being the best husband he could be How quitting drinking can improve a relationship and marriage Using 75 Hard as motivation to try sobriety How This Naked Mind equipped him with knowledge, not just conviction Wrestling with the question "What place does alcohol have in my life?" Learning that alcohol was contributing nothing positive The difference between feeling convicted and feeling equipped to change How supportive spouses can help without criticism or nagging Breaking family patterns to show up authentically in marriage And other topics… Episode links:Related Episodes: Breaking Family Alcohol Patterns - Janine’s Naked Life - E 701 - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-701-naked-life-story-janine-m/ Quitting Alcohol with 75 Hard- Michelle’s Naked Life - E 671 - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-671-naked-life-story-michelle-s/ Alcohol’s Impact on Relationships- Coaching Questions - E 775 - https://thisnakedmind.com/the-missing-piece-with-paul-stacey-martino-e775/ Ready to take the next step on your journey? Visit https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/podcast-resources for free resources, programs, and more. Until next week, stay curious! Quince- Find your fall staples at Quince. Go to Quince.com/naked for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Hungryroot- Get 40% off your first box + a free item for life at Hungryroot.com/ nakedmind with code nakedmind Shopify- Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial and start selling today at Shopify.com/mind BetterHelp- Get 10% off your first month at BetterHelp.com/nakedmind

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0:00.0	You're listening to This Naked Mind with Annie Grace.
0:14.8	Hey everybody.
0:15.8	Welcome to The This Naked Mind podcast.
0:17.8	I am Cole Harvey, filling in for the amazing Annie Grace.
0:20.4	And today we have Gavin here
0:22.4	to tell his story. Gavin, good to have you on. Yeah, I'm so excited to be here. Like we were talking about
0:28.9	just a big fan of this podcast. I love the community and just thankful for the opportunity.
0:34.1	Yeah, it's our pleasure. Glad to have you on. Glad to have you tell your story. And speaking of that,
0:40.3	why don't you just kind of start from the beginning and let us know about your journey with alcohol.
0:44.8	Yeah, definitely. So, you know, like many others that kind of come on here, my story really begins in
0:50.9	childhood. I've heard other people say, and I'll start by saying I had really
0:54.9	an incredible upbringing, surrounded by love and family and awesome grandparents, aunts, uncles,
1:00.1	my parents, siblings. And I love my parents and that I always felt loved. And I've actually
1:05.2	got the best relationships with both my mom and my dad now than I've ever had. So I'm thankful for that, but most,
1:13.5	or at least a lot of my childhood memories do involve Al Gore. Generational drinking,
1:18.7	it was just part of my family. And then not just my family, it's really a part of most
1:23.3	families where I'm from. So I grew up in a very tiny rural town in southern Missouri population.
1:28.8	Last I checked, 243 to be exact. So it's actually called a village if you were to look it up on
1:34.4	Wikipedia. And it's not like it's a small town outside of the city. It's a small town surrounded
1:39.5	by nothing. But it's beautiful. It's the real Ozarks, not like the Ozark show on Netflix. It's actually
1:46.3	in the rolling hills, southern Missouri, right on the Arkansas line, and the town's situated right on
1:51.8	Bullshould's Lake. And it's just awesome. It's a great place to grow up. And in the summer,
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