Welcome to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience

dating, love and relationships.

I'm your host, relationship coach and attachment expert Stephanie Rigg,

and I'm really glad you're here. Hi everybody welcome back to another episode of on attachment. In today's

episode I'm going to be answering all of your questions around breakups. I put the word out on

Instagram last week and was absolutely inundated with questions about breakups and podcast topic

requests. So rather than just picking one I thought to structure

this as a Q&A and in so doing hopefully cover as much ground as possible and

answer as many people's questions as possible. There was a lot of overlap in the questions that I got.

So we're going to be talking about things ranging from the famed no contact period after a breakup,

jealousy around an ex's new partner and how to manage that.

What to do when your breakup really blind signs you and catches you out of the blue

and you know navigating things like closure and communication in the

wake of something like that. What to do with feelings of shame and inadequacy

when a partner breaks up with you and you know stories around you know being

given up on which I think can be really pervasive and and really painful and finally how to know if you're ready to start dating again and some tips in how to approach that.

Before we dive into that, a reminder that my newest course, Higher Love, is launching in less than two weeks now, which is very exciting.

It's a program all about break-ups, as you might have gathered from my content recently, not only processing a breakup

and really being with your grief and increasing your capacity to hold those big emotions,

but also getting really clear on the pattern and the stories that you're telling yourself what you're making things mean and how that might

be exacerbating your suffering, finding closure and letting go, and then really looking to the future and seeing the breakup as an invitation to level up, getting very clear around what you want for your life,

know, what your values are, what your non-negotiables are in relationship,

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