Welcome to the Recovery Show. We are friends and family members of

alcoholics and addicts who have found a path to serenity and

happiness. We who live or have lived with the seemingly hopeless problem of

addiction understand as perhaps a few others can.

So much depends on our own attitudes and we believe that changed attitudes can aid recovery.

During this show we will share our experiences as they relate to the topic of boundaries.

We hope you will find something in our sharing that speaks to your life.

With me today is Suitha.

Suitha, how did you deal with unacceptable behavior before you came into the Al-Anam program?

I didn't. I didn't deal with it at all. Actually, I would just let it happen and then go off to a room or something and rage and see and feel a lot of self-pity.

So I would just, I didn't have any boundaries.

If something happened and I didn't like it, I wouldn't even, I wouldn't have any boundaries if something happened and I didn't like it I wouldn't even

I wouldn't even say I don't like this or I'm unhappy with this I would just be angry

internally so did you ever try to set limits on other people's behavior?

Not that I can recall.

I think that my limits were in my head and I expected them to kind of read my mind.

So no.

I never put up a fight I never said you know I never

said no or anything like that a few times that I did it wasn't a substantial

thing like people knew if they if I said no and they just push a little harder. I just I'd say yes

So no not really not real limits and also whether this is. How did you deal with unacceptable behavior before you came into the program?

My way of dealing with unacceptable behavior was to

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