Welcome to the Girl on Top Shalyn XO podcast.

I'm your host Shalin Lester and you might know me from my YouTube channel,

where I analyze celebrity relationships and scandals for the lessons we can take into our own lives.

But here on the podcast, I answer the best questions you submitted over the past week.

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Let's get relaxed. Let's get relaxed and ready to receive the message. We're going to roll our shoulders back. We're going to loosen that jaw.

And this week's mantra is, I'm going to do what works for me, right? That seems simple. Well,

yeah, no shit, I'm going to do what works for me. I always do it works for me. Well, do we? Some of us are givers and we're bleeders. We're not just giving. We're bleeding. We're hemorrhaging. We're bleeding out trying to please everyone around us. Or sometimes it's not even that. Sometimes what we're responding to and our behavior is fueled not so much by what we actually want, what we find fun, what's healthy.

It's fueled by fear, right?

And so it's important that we step back and we're like, what is motivating my behavior?

Is it distraction?

Do I have some sort of psychological splinter that I don't want to address and pull out?

Am I afraid to be alone? Is there

something else I need to turn my attention to and I just kind of don't feel like it? Am I people

pleasing? Am I afraid? Am I falling victim to like opinions from other people that I've

somehow taken as absolute fact? And they're not? It's always important to step back.

So let's get into our first question.

This, oh, wait, we did do our breathing.

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