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Shalin Lester and you might know me for my YouTube channel where I analyze

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Let's get relaxed and ready to receive the message.

We're gonna roll our shoulders back,

we're gonna loosen that jaw.

And this week's mantra is,

I'm going to do what works for me, right?

That seems simple.

Well, yeah, no shit, I'm gonna do what works for me. I always do it works for me. Well, do we? Some of us are givers and we're bleeders. We're not just giving. We're bleeding. We're hemorrhaging. We're bleeding out, trying to please everyone around us.

Or sometimes it's not even that.

Sometimes what we're responding to and our behavior is fueled not so much by what we

actually want, what we find fun, what's healthy, it's fueled by fear, right?

And so it's important that we step back and we're like, what is motivating my behavior?

Is it distraction? Do I have some sort of psychological splinter that I don't want to

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