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Have you ever felt exhausted after setting a boundary?

It can be a lot of emotional work.

Up until recently, I started to realize how drained I was feeling after having a conversation

like that.

It's often said that boundaries are an act of self-care, but I'm realizing that once the

boundary has been set, self-care is also needed, especially if you're not used to asking

for what you want or need.

It takes great vulnerability to say that you have limits, like telling your work team

that you're not working past 7pm because you want to have dinner with your family, or

letting your friends know that you're too tired to hang out on Fridays.

I love what Dr. Brane Brown says about the aftermath of putting ourselves out there, after

taking that big emotional risk.

It may all go south, then we may not get the outcome we hope for.

Here's the thing though, being vulnerable also gives life to creativity, to joy, to courage,

to authenticity, and can help to strengthen the right relationships.

So when we set boundaries, as much as we think it's about the other person, it really

has to do with ourselves.

Can we accept that things may not work out in our favor?

That the boundary may not be well received, or that we really have no idea what to expect

in doing so, the initial sting can be soothed and not linger for longer than it has to.

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