Borderline Personality Disorder: Regulation, Nurturance, and Compassion

Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

Being Well

Education, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

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🗓️ 18 July 2022

⏱️ 60 minutes

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Summary

One of the most important and challenging skills we can develop is learning to regulate our strong emotions. While it’s very natural to have fluctuations in how we feel about others and ourselves, for some people these ups and downs are particularly intense. At clinical levels, this is known as Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). BPD is characterized by a pattern of instability in a person’s emotions, moods, behavior, self-image, and relationships. BPD is fairly common, and it's even more common for "borderline-y tendencies" to show up in our lives. On this episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson explore what to do when these tendencies show up, how to cultivate a healthy balance of sensitivity and tolerance to distress, regulating and nurturing ourselves, and how to navigate relationships with others when they exhibit borderline tendencies. As a disclaimer, formal diagnosis of any condition should be done with a medical professional working directly with the person in question. This podcast episode is not a substitute for that. Watch the Episode: Prefer watching video? You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 2:00: What are "borderline tendencies"? 6:50: 9 Symptoms of BPD 9:10: The what, why, and how of mental health 11:25: Childhood influences on borderline tendencies 15:05: Instability, impulsivity, and the drive for reassurance 25:00: Recognizing varying degrees of borderline patterns 27:00: Practical tips–regulation and nurturance 32:50: Boundaries, and avoiding spiraling 37:50: Acceptance, and the desire for change 40:35: Sensitivity and distress tolerance 45:00: What to do when you notice borderline tendencies in a relationship 51:00: Recognizing how much someone's nature is going to change 53:35: Treatability 54:50: Recap New Course From Rick! Learn the lessons of a lifetime in the new and improved Foundations of Wellbeing 2.0 program. This yearlong, online program teaches you how to grow the 12 key inner strengths that lead to lasting wellbeing during difficult times. Our New Year's sale is running now, and you can use the code BeingWell25 to get an additional 25% off the purchase price. Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors: Bombas designed their socks, shirts, and underwear to be the clothes you can’t wait to put on every day. Visit bombas.com/beingwell and use code beingwell for 20% off. Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Want to sleep better? Try the Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription. Ready to shake up your protein Ritual? Being Well listeners get 10% off during your first 3 months at ritual.com/WELL. Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hey everyone, welcome to Being Well, I'm Forrest Hanson.
0:10.6	If you're new to the podcast, thanks for joining us today.
0:13.6	And if you've listened before, welcome back.
0:16.2	One of the most important skills we can develop in life is learning how to relate to our strong
0:21.1	thoughts, feelings, and emotions, accepting them, experiencing them authentically, and
0:26.2	then also learning how to regulate them.
0:29.5	And we're all going to have times when those feelings are particularly strong, and maybe
0:33.8	even a bit harder to manage than normal.
0:37.2	It's very common to have these natural fluctuations in how we feel about others or ourselves,
0:43.1	but some people struggle with this more than others.
0:46.0	Clinically significant form of this is known as borderline personality disorder or BPD,
0:51.6	which is characterized by a real pattern of instability in a person's emotions, moods,
0:57.5	behavior, even their self-image, and their relationships.
1:01.8	BPD is actually fairly common, and even more common are very normal challenges with
1:07.8	emotional sensitivity, stability, and regulation.
1:11.8	So today we're going to be diving into what borderline tendencies are, and what we can
1:16.2	do about them.
1:17.8	To help us do that, I'm joined as usual by Dr. Rick Hansen, Rikaze, clinical psychologist,
1:22.5	best-selling author, and he's also my dad.
1:25.0	So dad, how are you doing today?
1:26.4	I'm doing great for us, and extremely happy that we're going to be talking about this
1:30.9	subject.
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