Welcome to the Sports Motivation Podcast. This is your host, Nees Showbo. Today is an episode of books and bars, and I am breaking down a book, a very, very impactful book. And I actually came across the author. Her name is Olivia Fox Cabin. I came across this author from an interview that she did with Ramit Sati, who was someone who I followed and learned a ton from from a marketing standpoint and helped me a lot as I transitioned from my job to my business full time.

But I checked out her interview. I really enjoyed it and I got her book. It's called the charisma myth, how anyone can master the art

and science of personal magnetism. So she's a charisma coach. She works with politicians,

business leaders, actors, entrepreneurs on how to build more charisma. And oddly enough, I expected

to kind of read a book that was, I wasn't really sure what I expected when I read the book, honestly.

But I was surprised and happily surprised when so much of what she was teaching had so much to do with athletes.

And not just athletes, but how you perform under pressure.

And I was just really, really in alignment with what she was teaching and I loved it.

And I especially loved how many tools she gave and how practical she is and how she applies

these things.

Because a lot of times it's kind of a difficult thing to say you teach someone charisma, right? But she's able to

take these ideas that seem sort of up in the clouds and really bring it down to a practical

level in a way that really resonated with me. And so what I want to do is share with you an excerpt

from her book. It's actually on page 59 in case you want to, in case you buy the book, which you should,

she actually goes through a checklist on how to rewrite reality. And so what she means by that

is at any given time, there's events that happen in our lives. And it's our interpretation

of these events that lead to the emotions that follow. And the emotions are what caused us the pain and cause us to perform in a way that is not conducive to what we want. Right. So obviously, we need a way of interpreting these events in a different type of way that allows us to deal with the reality better so that we can stay poised and calm in high

pressure situations and ultimately perform the way that we need to. So she goes to this checklist

and it's super, super great. So let me read it to you. She says, number one, take a deep breath and

shake out your body to ensure that no physical discomfort is adding to your tense mental state.

So let's imagine that you're in a tense mental state because of something that happened.

First thing, take a deep breath and shake out your body.

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