Book Club Meets: Orgies, PTSD, and bodies, with Sofie Hagen
Happy Place
Fearne Cotton
4.6 • 15.2K Ratings
🗓️ 2 August 2024
⏱️ 43 minutes
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Summary
Are you having the sex you want? Comedian and author Sofie Hagen reckons there are loads of things standing in the way of pleasure – everything from gender identity and body image, to parenting and the cost of living crisis.
In this Book Club episode – recorded live at the Happy Place Festival – Sofie tells Fearne why they haven’t had sex for 3000 days and counting... and why they’ve written about it in ‘Will I Ever Have Sex Again?’
What does sex mean to you? Sofie wonders if it’s about ‘enjoying bodies’, but how can you relax into desire if you have self-loathing around your body, or don’t trust that others will enjoy your body?
Plus, do you think labels around gender and sexuality are restrictive or liberating? Fearne and Sofie chat about their thoughts, and Sofie also explains why your PTSD, anxiety, or OCD is trying to protect you.
Will I Ever Have Sex Again is the Happy Place Book Club read for July, and is out now.
Thank you to Bonnier for the use of the Will I Ever Sex Again audiobook, read by Sofie Hagen.
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| 0:00.0 | Before we start a quick note that there's a lot of explicit language in this chat so maybe make sure your headphones are on for this one |
| 0:07.8 | After I had sex for the very first time with a guy nicknamed fingers at the age of 16. I called my older brother and told him. |
| 0:14.8 | Hey welcome to the Happy Place Book Club with me Fern Cotton. |
| 0:18.8 | In my town had already had sex years ago. Today, will I ever have sex again by Sophie Hagen having tried threesons and |
| 0:26.7 | anal like it was standard behavior I had not even been kissed my older brother |
| 0:32.2 | just wanted me to fit in and not be such a weirdo. |
| 0:35.2 | Which is why I was quite frankly offended that he didn't react better when I announced to him that I was now no longer a virgin. |
| 0:45.0 | As a matter of fact, he instantly started humming loudly to stop me from talking. |
| 0:47.0 | But I had lots to say and I wanted him to hear it. |
| 0:50.0 | What's the big deal? I asked. |
| 0:52.0 | I mean, that's it. This is what I've felt pressure to do for years. |
| 0:58.0 | This is what the whole world seems to revolve around? This? I mean it's fine. It's nice even. But it was just |
| 1:08.4 | simple and easy. The world didn't stop spinning and I'm still the same person as I was before. |
| 1:14.0 | La la la la la, my brother responded and hung up. |
| 1:18.0 | When I think back, I don't remember if fingers were still in the room and therefore overhearing this conversation. |
| 1:24.4 | I imagine if he had been it would make his first time story a lot less fun. |
| 1:29.9 | I'm not sure that's it is what a teenage boy wants to hear after his first time penetrating a vagina. |
| 1:39.0 | Comedian Sophie Hagen hasn't had sex for 3,000 days and counting and it turns out |
| 1:45.5 | Sophie isn't the only one. In an attempt to find out why we're not having the sex |
| 1:50.2 | we want this book asks questions, can we blame a lacking sex education? |
| 1:56.1 | Where's the radical sexual liberation we were promised? |
| 1:59.3 | And should you have slept with that guy in the bush that one time? We've all been there, have we? I was I was totally obsessed when I read this |
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