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I'm Rufus Griskym, and this is the next big idea.

We are up to number four in our countdown. Are you on the edge of your seat? I am.

Today, number four, the Child in You by Stephanie Stahl.

Is your inner child your truest self? Clinical psychologist Stephanie Stahl thinks so.

As do the one and a half million readers around the world who have snapped up her book.

But sometimes childhood traumas, big and small, can keep us from becoming happy,

fulfilled adults. In this book, Stephanie uses examples and exercises to guide readers through

a process of working through past injuries to become more alive and childlike in the present.

Here's Stephanie.

Hi, I'm Stephanie Stahl, clinical psychologist and bestselling author of more than 10 books.

I have my own psychotherapy practice in Germany for more than 25 years and conduct seminars

about self-esteem, love and the fear of commitment. I'm going to share with you five

of the key insights from my book, The Child in You.

Insight number one. Reality is a matter of the mind. Our brain seems not to have much interest

in the supposed reality outside of it. We are indeed only tentatively connected to this

external reality. It is not facts that make up our sense of reality, rather our interpretations

of those facts. Our expectations play decisive role in this, as has been proven in numerous

psychological studies. Imagine encountering someone whose corners of the mouth occurred upwards.

We can interpret this facial expression in several ways. He is smiling at me,

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