BONUS: What if I logically know he isn't good for me … but I still want him. What's wrong with me?
How to Get Over Your Ex
Dorothy AB Johnson
4.7 • 577 Ratings
🗓️ 3 June 2026
⏱️ 6 minutes
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Summary
If you logically know your ex isn't good for you… but you still want them anyway, this episode will help you understand why. You'll hear why heartbreak isn't just about logic, why making lists of your ex's flaws only gets you so far, and what's actually happening inside your brain and body when you feel emotionally attached to someone who's wrong for you.
This episode breaks down the difference between intellectually knowing something and fully embodying it, while giving you a new way to think about healing, attachment, and moving on. If you've been judging yourself for still missing them, wanting them, or feeling "addicted" to the relationship, this conversation will help you feel less broken and more empowered to finally change the pattern.
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| 0:00.0 | All right. Let's talk about, I logically know that this person isn't good for me, but I still |
| 0:08.4 | want them what's wrong with me. There's so many layers to this question and or this statement, |
| 0:15.3 | whenever you want to call it. I think the first layer that I'd like to address is like the logic. |
| 0:21.6 | There's so many things, my friends, there are so many things in the world that we logically know |
| 0:26.6 | and then we don't do or we logically know not to do it and then we do it. |
| 0:30.6 | We logically know smoking gives us cancer. |
| 0:32.6 | Sometimes we still smoke. |
| 0:34.6 | I don't, but we logically know that it's important to move, but then we skip |
| 0:42.3 | the gym. We logically know that we should eat healthy, that we should get more protein, |
| 0:49.4 | but then we don't. Okay. Logic is never really the reason. It's really about connecting that |
| 0:57.6 | subconscious brain to the logical prefrontal cortex. And we do that in a variety of ways, |
| 1:05.6 | especially in Get Over Your X, the program. But the first thing that I will say is that planning in the prefrontal |
| 1:15.7 | cortex is your best friend. Planning and then executing your plan, which requires you to feel |
| 1:21.8 | negative emotion. And ironically, these are skill sets that we learn and build when we're reducing |
| 1:27.3 | desire and attachment for our ex. So there's a micro process. And ironically, these are skill sets that we learn and build when we're reducing desire |
| 1:27.7 | and attachment for our X. |
| 1:29.6 | So there's a micro process and a macro process to reducing desire and attachment. |
| 1:35.0 | I don't think I'd get into this in these little mini episodes, but here we are. |
| 1:40.2 | The micro process is two or three specific exercises that I walk through with my clients that |
| 1:47.1 | reduce desire no matter what. I've seen it time and time again. The macro process is the bigger |
| 1:52.9 | behind the scenes process. We're building skill sets, emotional maturity, learning how to experience |
| 1:59.3 | negative emotion and not be like terrified of it and learning how to experience negative emotion and not be terrified of it, |
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