Hello my friends. I don't know about you but it is February now and the glow is off the holiday glow is over

It's cold. It's so rainy in New York right now and I saw this tweet that was like oh God everyone is circling back and that's for sure how I feel about my life right now

Everything that we all put off over the holidays is like

descending. And I know that when I feel kind of overwhelmed I tend to get really hard on myself and really perfectionistic about everything

I'm supposed to be doing and doing perfectly.

And I think that that partially comes because when we are going through our goal

sitting and our resolution processes we tend to, you know, no matter how hard we're

trying not to have a little bit of that perfectionist like when I do these things

my life will be perfect and then of course

we're still us we still have our lives in our brains and we still have all of the

social programming that was in our brains before the holidays that has been telling us to criticize ourselves and critique ourselves

and constantly be evaluating our performance at like literally every area of our lives,

including, you know, how often we cook dinner

to what our body looks like, to how much money we make,

to our dating lives, to every single area of our lives. I really think on some level the core harm

that patriarchy does to our brains, the core way that a sexist society gets

inside of our heads is by convincing women and people

socializes women that are worth and our value are constantly changing and

based on what we're doing, right, so that our worth and our value aren't absolute,

that we don't just have value and worth for existing and being us,

but it's like the stock market or commodity prices,

it's rising and falling based on what we're doing well, what we're not doing well,

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