BONUS Sexuality Counselor Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife on Partner Desirability Hi/Low Desire Relationships

The Virtual Couch

Tony Overbay LMFT

Education, Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

5 • 643 Ratings

🗓️ 21 April 2021

⏱️ 53 minutes

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In this special BONUS episode of Tony's top-10 most downloaded episodes of all time on the Virtual Couch, Sexuality and Relationship Counselor Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife makes discusses what to do if you no longer find your partner physically attractive, as well as how to communicate in a relationship where one partner has a high desire for intimacy and one has a low desire? Also, find out what men do that Dr. Finlayson-Fife says will result in them being "toast!" You can find out more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife's work, as well as her online programs for individuals and couples around their sexuality at finlayson-fife.com (https://gate.sc/?url=http%3A%2F%2Ffinlayson-fife.com&token=f2fd3-1-1619008799883). And please sign up now at http://tonyoverbay.com/magnetic for Tony and Preston Pugmire's FREE webinar on how to create a more Magnetic Marriage on Monday, April 26th, 2021 at 5 PM PST. Space is limited so go reserve your spot today! Please subscribe to The Virtual Couch YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/c/TheVirtualCouchPodcast/ (https://www.youtube.com/c/TheVirtualCouchPodcast/) and follow The Virtual Couch on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/virtualcouch/ (https://www.instagram.com/virtualcouch/) This episode of The Virtual Couch is sponsored by http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch) With the continuing “sheltering” rules that are spreading across the country PLEASE do not think that you can’t continue or begin therapy now. http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch) can put you quickly in touch with licensed mental health professionals who can meet through text, email, or videoconference often as soon as 24-48 hours. And if you use the link http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch) you will receive 10% off your first month of services. Please make your own mental health a priority, http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch)offers affordable counseling, and they even have sliding scale options if your budget is tight. Tony's FREE parenting course, “Tips For Parenting Positively Even In the Not So Positive Times” is available NOW. Just go to https://www.tonyoverbay.com/courses-2/ (https://www.tonyoverbay.com/courses-2/)and sign up today. This course will help you understand why it can be so difficult to communicate with and understand your children. You’ll learn how to keep your buttons hidden, how to genuinely give praise that will truly build inner wealth in your child, teen, or even in your adult children, and you’ll learn how to move from being “the punisher” to being someone your children will want to go to when they need help.Tony's new best-selling book "He's a Porn Addict...Now What? An Expert and a Former Addict Answer Your Questions" is now available on Kindle. https://amzn.to/38mauBoTony Overbay, is the co-author of "He's a Porn Addict...Now What? An Expert and a Former Addict Answer Your Questions" now available on Amazon https://amzn.to/33fk0U4 (https://amzn.to/33fk0U4). The book debuted in the number 1 spot in the Sexual Health Recovery category and remains there as the time of this record. The book has received numerous positive reviews from professionals in the mental health and recovery fields.You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program The Path Back by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com (http://pathbackrecovery.com) And visit http://tonyoverbay.

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0:00.0	A couple of days ago, I flew home with my family. We had been on a weekend trip to Southern California
0:05.0	there for a basketball tournament. My son was playing and we weren't able to get a flight home on Sunday night.
0:10.3	So we headed back early, very early Monday morning. And the plan was for my family to drop me off directly at work and I would immediately jump into therapy with clients.
0:19.2	And as often can be the case, the flight was delayed
0:21.4	in leaving Southern California. And by the time we landed in the Sacramento International Airport,
0:27.0	I was running a little bit behind. And I let my clients know and they were wonderful and understanding.
0:31.2	And we immediately headed to my office. And I was already in my head a little bit, just kind of
0:35.6	thinking about the day ahead, client issues, ready to get myself all ready for therapy. And I was already in my head a little bit, just kind of thinking about the day ahead, client issues,
0:37.5	ready to get myself all ready for therapy.
0:40.9	And I missed a very necessary exit to head to my office, one that was going to add several
0:46.1	minutes onto my trip.
0:47.7	And it's hard to describe, but there was a way to still kind of make the on-ramp, but it
0:52.3	would take a little bit of, let's just say, a tiny
0:54.3	bit of off-roading. And I was driving the opposite of an off-road vehicle, but I said, man, I
0:59.7	missed my exit. And we all shared a couple of ideas, and I calmly made a power move. I made
1:05.0	it to my exit, and we were on our way. Did a little bit of that off-roading. And I commented to my wife that I felt like situations like those or where the mindfulness training pays off. I remain calm. I noticed I had
1:16.3	missed my turn. I didn't beat myself up about it or unload a profanity lace tirade or anything like
1:22.2	that. And I was pretty accepting that I had had this off-roading option and that I needed to
1:26.7	embrace it. And I would get to work
1:28.0	eventually when I got to work. So fast forward to yesterday morning. I had a podcast that I was
1:34.4	so excited to record. I've been writing some notes down for a couple of weeks, but I needed
1:39.4	to be at my office by four in the morning to get it done before starting with clients at six.
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