On the last episode of Confronting O.J. Simpson, I talked with grief counselor and author David Kessler.

If you've ever lost someone close to you, his words will speak to your heart.

What do you think of the phrase, and I'm first want to do it, but like, I'm sorry for your loss.

Do you have people that reject that?

I do, and sorry for your loss has, it comes across a number of different ways.

For some people, it feels like pity.

For other people, they'll go, wait, what are you sorry about?

You didn't do anything.

The thing I hear most that people wish is they wish for stories about their loved one,

who died, especially stories that they didn't know.

Someone's got a story that you've never heard about your loved one,

and I also think pictures that you've never seen.

If you know when our loved one dies, it feels like there is no more of them.

You're not going to discover more, but if someone goes, oh, I remember something they did,

oh, there is more.

That's a beautiful thing to give people.

Do you have a lot of people that you talk to that seek out mediums?

Absolutely.

I've seen mediums who have taken people's life savings,

and I've seen really talented mediums, and one of the questions I always get from therapists is,

should people in grief go to mediums?

And I'm like, first of all, it's never my place to tell anyone in grief what they should or shouldn't do.

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