Bonus: If You're On the Fence About the Clutch - Listen to This
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
Kara Loewentheil
4.6 • 5.6K Ratings
🗓️ 1 May 2023
⏱️ 17 minutes
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Summary
Making decisions can cause our brains to play all kinds of games. I see this all the time with people deciding to join the Clutch, my monthly feminist coaching program. Either your brain is telling you to beat yourself up because you’re struggling to make a decision in the first place. Or it’s shaming you once you make a decision and begin seeing change or improvement for not having made it sooner. It’s a Catch-22.
But what if making decisions can be about giving yourself as many chances to change or succeed as you could possibly need? What if you could approach your decisions with that kind of patience and compassion? That’s one of the many things you’ll learn in the Clutch. Doors close at midnight on May 2. Text your email address to +1.347.934.8861 (no code word needed) or visit unfuckyourbrain.com/clutch to join today.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to Unfuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism |
| 0:13.8 | and coaching to rewire your brain and get what you want in life. And now here's your |
| 0:19.3 | host, Harvard Law School grad, feminist rock star, and master coach, Carla Lohanthile. |
| 0:27.2 | All right, my chicken. If you're listening to this, it's because you're thinking about joining |
| 0:31.9 | the clutch. So here's what I want to ask you. How long have you been thinking about this? |
| 0:37.3 | The last time we opened the public, I coach a student who'd been thinking about joining for |
| 0:42.0 | three years I never had. And she did finally join. And then a few weeks later, she shared that she |
| 0:48.0 | was beating herself up now for having taken so long to join because she was making so much more |
| 0:53.6 | progress inside the clutch than she had just listening to the podcast for years. And so of course, |
| 0:59.2 | her brain had basically turned on her and was now criticizing her for not having joined the |
| 1:04.3 | clutch earlier. And I see this all the time. Like you learn to manage your mind and then your |
| 1:09.4 | brain immediately beats you up for not having managed your mind in the past, which I have so much |
| 1:13.6 | compassion for our brains when they do that because of course brains. Like first your brain keeps |
| 1:20.0 | you from taking the leap to change your life. And then when you finally do your brain yells at you |
| 1:24.0 | for not doing it sooner. Like that's an abusive relationship, right? That's a catch 22. But I want |
| 1:29.5 | to talk about this because I don't think it's uncommon. I think it's actually quite common. And |
| 1:33.5 | weirdly, I actually think that sometimes if we've chosen in the past not to do something, we then |
| 1:39.0 | don't want to change our opinion about it because that will mean that we were wrong before and then |
| 1:44.1 | will beat ourselves up. Like I see this in my brain. And I think that's what socialization does to |
| 1:48.9 | women's brains. It trains our brains to beat ourselves up no matter what, right? Like I see in |
| 1:56.1 | myself that sometimes I'll get exposed to let's say somebody's work like a teacher or another coach |
| 2:01.2 | on Instagram or social media. Someone will share their work with me, whatever. And initially I sort of |
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