Hello, friends. Thank you for joining me to celebrate 10,000 downloads of my new podcast. Ask Dr. Julie Hanks. I'm so thrilled with the response,

and I'm so grateful to all of you who went and downloaded and listened to the podcast and

reviewed it. It's gotten a lot of really great reviews. So thank you so much for your support. So I wanted to do something to

celebrate and I thought let's do a live Q&A. You guys seem to like live Q&As or recorded Q&As

or written Q&A's. So I thought I'd try this. So happy to see so many of you joining waving hello hello everybody all right i'm going to

try to pull up the questions through live i've never done this before oh there they are yay okay

what is your favorite podcast to listen to so i am a crime junkie fan. So the podcast, Crime Junkie, is one of my

favorites. Yeah, true crime. Got to love it. So how to detriagulate from family drama triangle.

I'm the rescuer most often. Okay. So this is related to a post yesterday and today. So a triangle

in a relationship is when like mom talks to adult child about marriage problems with dad. So see,

it's this triangle instead of mom talks to dad about their marriage problems.

The way you get out of a triangle is to refuse to talk to the person about the other person.

So if your mom comes to you and says, my marriage is really struggling with your dad and he's he's depressed and you say you know mom I

really think you need to talk to dad about that I'm not interested in having a conversation with

you about how horrible your marriage is right now that's really not my business so or if a sister

comes to you talking about how she's mad at one of your brothers,

then you say to the sister, you know, I'm really not interested in having this conversation

about brother. I think you need to talk directly to him. And so that's the most direct way to get

out of a triangle is to just direct

the person to the person they're talking about and refuse to talk about other people

if they're not in your presence. That's a really great rule for a lot of relationships. In families, we tend to do these triangulations

and they're not healthy. So part of differentiation of self is getting out of the triangles.

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