It’s so easy to get caught up trying to catch other people in lies. In your love life, working relationships, and even with family and friends, thoughts of, ‘what if this person is lying’ crosses your mind more than you’d like to admit. But, have you ever considered whether or not your own verbal and nonverbal cues were sending the wrong message and causing people to think maybe you’re the one not being honest? Vanessa Van Edwards is joining us to break down how to better identify if you are being lied to, and ways you can ensure you’re not sending the wrong signals. Lack of confidence, anxiety and shame are just a few of the ‘honest’ behaviors Vanessa warns could manifest almost identical to the cues used for dishonesty. Here is what you need to know to not just spot a lie, but to be a better communicator and create better relationships in your life built around honesty and transparency.  Preorder Vanessa Van Edwards’ new book, Cues: https://amzn.to/3leaa1j  SHOW NOTES: Science of Lying | Vanessa shares why mornings are better for honesty Assume the Truth | Up your ability to detect lies by assuming the truth Congruence | Vanessa breaks down looking for misaligned verbal and nonverbal cues Mixed Messages | Why anxiety and lack of confidence has same cues as lying does Step 1 Lie Detection | Establish a baseline of person when they tell truth Step 2 Lie Detection | Establish their nervous baseline to know their nervous tells Step 3 Lie Detection | Spot redflags and microexpressions incongruent with baseline Ignoring Instinct | Vanessa shares importance of not ignoring instinct if you see truth Step 4 Lie Detection | Look for redflag clusters, use the rule of 3 before moving to step 5 Step 5 Lie Detection | Circle back, ask questions, and give opportunity to to overcome the lie Share The Cues | Why learning cues together improves relationships and conversations Intentional Liars | Vanessa explains how to spot them and remove those toxic people Modes of Communication | Why people are more likely to lie over phone than text Kinds of Lies | When people are self-deceptive, ill-intentioned versus well-intentioned Truth Rules | Vanessa shares how to establish truth rules for people in your life Shame Cues | How to spot shames cues and respond for better relationships Modes of Lying | Listening for audio cues and how to communicate truthfully in email  Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Are You Ready for EXTRA Impact? Calling all Badasses!! If you really want to level up your confidence game, check out the WOMEN OF IMPACT SUBSCRIPTION, specially designed to turn you into the badass you were born to be!  Women of EXTRA Impact Subscription Benefits: New episodes delivered ad-free Exclusive access to listen to Women of Impact round table discussions, weekly motivation, previously unreleased episodes, and more!  Subscriber-only access to an additional 4 podcasts with hundreds of archived Women of Impact episodes, meticulously curated into themed playlists, and updated weekly. Looking to boost your confidence? Check out the Get Confident playlist.  Want to repair and heal your relationships? Start with Love Lab.  Curious about your health? We’ve got you covered in Health Hub.  And of course, weekly boosts of mini-motivation from Lisa herself that'll have you strutting through life with your head held high on the Badass Boosts playlist  Don't settle for mediocrity when you can be extraordinary! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/457ebrP Subscribe on all other platforms (Google Podcasts, Spotify, Castro, Downcast, Overcast, Pocket Casts, Podcast Addict, Podcast Republic, Podkicker, and more) : https://impacttheorynetwork.supercast.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices