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The Virtual Couch

Birth Order and the Impact on Personality (aka Marcia, Marcia, Marcia!)

The Virtual Couch

Tony Overbay LMFT

Education, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.9 • 668 Ratings

🗓️ 20 January 2021

⏱️ 50 minutes

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Summary

How important is family birth order in creating your personality? Tony references the article “Birth Order Traits: Your Guide to Sibling Personality Differences” by Jocelyn Voo https://www.parents.com/baby/development/social/birth-order-and-personality/ and “62 Interesting Birth Order Facts” https://www.factretriever.com/birth-order-facts in this episode. -Sign up at http://tonyoverbay.com to learn more about Tony’s upcoming “Magnetic Marriage” program!-Please subscribe to The Virtual Couch YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/c/TheVirtualCouchPodcast/ and sign up at http://tonyoverbay.com to learn more about Tony’s upcoming “Magnetic Marriage” program!-Tony's FREE parenting course, “Tips For Parenting Positively Even In the Not So Positive Times” is available NOW. Just go to https://www.tonyoverbay.com/courses-2/ and sign up today. This course will help you understand why it can be so difficult to communicate with and understand your children. You’ll learn how to keep your buttons hidden, how to genuinely give praise that will truly build inner wealth in your child, teen, or even in your adult children, and you’ll learn how to move from being “the punisher” to being someone your children will want to go to when they need help.-Tony's new best-selling book "He's a Porn Addict...Now What? An Expert and a Former Addict Answer Your Questions" is now available on Kindle. https://amzn.to/38mauBo-Tony Overbay, is the co-author of "He's a Porn Addict...Now What? An Expert and a Former Addict Answer Your Questions" now available on Amazon https://amzn.to/33fk0U4. The book debuted in the number 1 spot in the Sexual Health Recovery category and remains there as the time of this record. The book has received numerous positive reviews from professionals in the mental health and recovery fields.-You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program The Path Back by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs, and podcasts.-Tony also mentioned his appearances this week on two podcasts, The Betrayed, The Addicted and The Expert with hosts Ashlyn and Coby, and Virtual Couch former guest Brannon Patrick where we discuss narcissism in detail and the challenges people face in relationships with narcissistic individuals https://www.betrayedaddictedexpert.com/podcast/episode/25d19bf1/is-narcissism-nature-or-nurture and The Millennial Member Podcast hosted by Emily Ensign where we discuss the topic of pornography, what helps with recovery, and what doesn’t https://www.buzzsprout.com/1072564/6209683-tony-overbay-pornography-and-recoveryTony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript click here https://descript.com?lmref=v95myQ This episode of The Virtual Couch is sponsored by http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch With the continuing “sheltering” rules that are spreading across the country PLEASE do not think that you can’t continue or begin therapy now. http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch can put you quickly in touch with licensed mental health professionals who can meet through text, email, or videoconference often as soon as 24-48 hours. And if you use the link http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch you will receive 10% off your first month of services. Please make your own mental health a priority, http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch offers affordable counseling, and they even have sliding scale options if your budget is tight.

 

 

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0:00.0

I remember being a new father and my first-born daughter, Alex, I'd waited for for seven years after we had been married, who's now 22, was around a year old, and she wasn't walking yet.

0:12.1

And my wife, Wendy, and I were beyond worried. We had friends whose son had started walking before he had 10 months old, and man, we heard about it. Alex had tucked her

0:23.0

foot under her before standing up or I remember she didn't like tummy time at six months or something

0:28.1

along that time frame and she didn't like running under the parachute at Jimbury class. I can't

0:33.8

exactly remember, but the implications were clear. What if Alex never learned how to walk?

0:38.6

What if her delayed walking led to a lower IQ? Would we hold ourselves responsible if Alex didn't go on to

0:44.5

become a Nobel Prize-winning astronaut architect who volunteered her weekends, building homes in

0:49.9

third-world countries? So fast forward, about six years years and my youngest son, Jake, was born.

0:55.9

Pretty sure Jake learned how to walk at some point because he currently, just a few days shy of

1:00.0

17, is a nationally ranked high school basketball player with some Division I college offers.

1:05.0

And I don't know if he spent much time on his tummy or if he really even enjoyed parachute

1:10.1

time at Jimbury class either.

1:12.2

And I know it seems like a cliche to say that as you have more kids, you go from hypervigilant

1:17.5

parent to, hey, has anybody seen kid number seven? He or I think it might be she, still lives

1:23.4

in her home, right? I don't know, somewhere between 15 and 18, somewhere around there the days is a Chet or Cliff. The name starts with a C, right? I don't know. There's somewhere between 15 and 18. Somewhere around there the days is

1:28.1

a Chet or Cliff. The name starts with a C, right? But as often the case, clichés are born out of some

1:34.1

truth. So what is true when it comes to birth order? When Jan Brady, perhaps the most famous middle child of

1:40.9

all time, sadly, but passionately exclaimed, Marscia, Marcia, Marcia. It's all about

1:46.0

Marcia. Was she simply jealous of her older sister's bell bottoms and groovy threads? Or was there

1:51.4

some true psychological scarring occurring in that split-level home somewhere down in sunny Southern

1:56.8

California? So on today's episode of the virtual couch, we're going to be talking all about birth order. Where do you fall in your family? And from some quick interviews with my own kids,

2:06.3

I think you're going to find more truth than you would have expected, at least in my home. That and

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