Communication is an essential part of great sex. But many people worry about hurting their partner’s feelings by bringing up the topic — especially if they'e not feeling satisfied. These conversations can bring up a lot of anxiety and can cause you to avoid having them. Thus, damage your relationship in the long run. But there are strategies to make these conversations easier. In this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down and share how to talk about sex with your partner even if you are afraid to do so. Now you have the chance to learn easily what they had to learn with great difficulty to make their relationship last for over 20 years. After watching this episode, you´ll know what the right moment for starting the conversation looks like. You'll understand how to prevent triggering your partner. Why asking for flowers isn't unromantic and how to guide your partner, so he knows what makes you happy. Furthermore, you'll learn how to handle your emotions when you're getting triggered and how men can articulate sexual attraction in a way that makes women feel good. SHOW NOTES: Why you should talk about sex if you're not sexually satisfied. [00:37] How does the right moment for starting the conversation look like? [3:21] This is how Tom and Lisa used the movie “Rush Hour” to end one of their biggest fights. [5:35] The most powerful question Lisa asked in the marriage. [7:33] The mindset you need to have to improve any area of your relationship. [8:10] Avoid this communication mistake to prevent triggering your partner. [9:45] What Lisa and Tom don't do (This radically improves their relationship.) [11:10] Why asking for flowers isn't unromantic and how to guide your partner, so he knows what makes you happy. [12:00] What “communication is key” does actually mean and how to implement it. [15:00] How to handle your emotions when you're getting triggered. [16:00] What happens to most relationships, so they end up in an unhappy relationship. [17:00] How men can articulate sexual attraction in a way that makes women feel good. [18:56] The difference in how women and men think about sex (If you don´t understand this, you think the other side is crazy.) [20:03] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Are You Ready for EXTRA Impact? Calling all Badasses!! If you really want to level up your confidence game, check out the WOMEN OF IMPACT SUBSCRIPTION, specially designed to turn you into the badass you were born to be!  Women of EXTRA Impact Subscription Benefits: New episodes delivered ad-free Exclusive access to listen to Women of Impact round table discussions, weekly motivation, previously unreleased episodes, and more!  Subscriber-only access to an additional 4 podcasts with hundreds of archived Women of Impact episodes, meticulously curated into themed playlists, and updated weekly. Looking to boost your confidence? Check out the Get Confident playlist.  Want to repair and heal your relationships? Start with Love Lab.  Curious about your health? We’ve got you covered in Health Hub.  And of course, weekly boosts of mini-motivation from Lisa herself that'll have you strutting through life with your head held high on the Badass Boosts playlist  Don't settle for mediocrity when you can be extraordinary! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/457ebrP Subscribe on all other platforms (Google Podcasts, Spotify, Castro, Downcast, Overcast, Pocket Casts, Podcast Addict, Podcast Republic, Podkicker, and more) : https://impacttheorynetwork.supercast.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices