Welcome to Betrayal Trauma Recovery. I'm Anne. I welcome Coach Kat back again this week to talk about the symptoms of betrayal trauma and how to start the healing process.

Welcome back, Coach Kat. Hi Anne Ann it's good to be here again. If you

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Coach Kat, I'm glad you're here today.

What are the most common symptoms of betrayal trauma that you see with your clients?

Well, there are some really common symptoms and I guess the things that I see most regularly are first of all the overwhelming emotions that are stirred up by

this experience of finding out what your husband is doing whilst you're not looking and

so these overwhelming emotions come up and that manifest in lots of different

ways but I see sleep difficulty as something that happens a lot so either we want to sleep too much

or we can't sleep at all or when we do sleep we get

nightmares we get eating issues that complete lack of appetite and the

overeating on the other end of that spectrum. I see anxiety and panic attacks in response to triggers and the obsessive and intrusive thoughts, flashbacks and nightmares.

So we just can't get rid of some of those images of things that we've seen or

things that we've imagined as a result of the things that we've been told.

The other thing that surfaces an awful lot is the obsessive checking and I don't know if you've been there but I definitely have

scouring internet history scouring emails text messages what's going on on the computer that I don't know about, and that's all about looking

for signs of danger still being present.

So I would say those are the most common things that I see.

I want to talk about nightmares for a minute. My ex was supposedly in recovery, but I was still having nightmares. In the dreams, I was a single mom and I knew I needed a husband, so was like there was that one guy I remember him he was kind of nice where is he now why isn't he here and then I would try and find him and then I would find him and he would be like kind of mean to me and brush me off.

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