Welcome to the Breakdown to Breakthrough podcast.

My name is Lisa A. Romano.

I am a life coach, best-selling author, YouTube vlogger, meditation teacher, an expert in the field of codependency and narcissistic abuse.

I am a believer in the power of an organized mind.

My aim is to help people learn what it means to live above the veil of consciousness rather

than living a reactive life.

May your heart feel blessed, your mind feel expanded and your spirit find hope as you

spend time with me here at the Breakdown to Breakthrough podcast.

So today, we're going to be talking about why being selfless will actually make

your life a whole lot worse.

This idea of being selfless has pretty much been a part of many of our cultures since the

beginning of time. Many of us since where,

especially women, have been infused with the idea that the less we take care of the self,

the more selfless we are, the better we are. And that can create tremendous dissonance

in the mind of someone who is trying to get happy,

trying to become happy, trying to figure out where is the line? How do I balance the need

to feel seen? How do I balance my inner needs that I have to express myself with the needs

of the family that I'm raising or with my spouse or

with people from church or at the synagogue or in my religion. How do I balance what I feel on the

inside with the pressures and the responsibilities and the obligations I feel on the outside.

These are serious considerations.

And when you're raised to believe that you are not good enough, it's really difficult to

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