Thanks for listening to my call of the day podcast. You can hear my live radio program Monday through Friday from 2 to 5 p.m. Eastern time on serious XM triumph 11. Michael, welcome to the program.

Thank you, Dr. Laura.

Thank you.

I was calling you back because you would ask me I talked to you the week before last about not being able to allow myself to stop and enjoy the nice things in life and take a break and I just work way too much and I'm not comfortable relaxing and you give me a task to take an hour for myself and to try to see how that felt and to give you a call back.

So I needed to call you back and tell you that I failed at that.

There is no failing.

You don't fail this. It's a process.

Yeah.

I think the first time they tried to get batches of penicillin they succeeded. No, it's a process. So tell me how this all went. Tell me everything.

Well, I was kind of excited to go back home and talk to my wife and say, guess what? I got to talk to Dr. Laura and this is what she asked me to do and right away my wife was offended.

She was offended that I would go on a talk show and expose like my dirty laundry and whatever it may be and she was just really upset and she was just making little digs like you call a gas lighting or whatever and just kept poking at me about how stupid it was that I would have done something like that.

And so I kind of let that go. But then as the week went on when I kept trying to make time I found my time being filled with tasks that she asked me to do.

It was just busy tasks and it just seems like instead of prioritizing what I wanted to do. I just like I almost couldn't say no. So I didn't say no and I didn't end up doing what I what I wanted to do.

Let me ask you let me wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, let me ask you about not saying no. Tell me more about not saying no.

It just always feels like I just appoint people if I say no, you know, and it's easier to like stop, stop, stop.

Okay, the minute you hear me yelling or breathing just stop. Okay, so I don't have to sound like a crazy bitch.

Go back over what you just said and listen to yourself saying it out loud and slowly.

Disappointing people do that again. Say it.

I don't say no because I don't I don't want to disappoint people.

Okay, let's sit for a minute. Let's sit that for a moment. I know it's easier. I don't need the next part of this sentence.

So what you're telling me is if you need something and want something healthy, that if it disappoints somebody else, you will sacrifice yourself.

That's correct, right? Yeah.

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