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Hey, welcome to owning it real time. In this audio guide,

I'm going to talk you through social anxiety, right when you're experiencing it. For most of

this guide, I'm going to talk about it as though you've just come out of a social situation,

and you're reeling in the aftermath of that. But this is also something you can listen to

to quell social anxiety in advance of a social experience too as a way to get you prepped.

I consider myself a social person who is not really very shy, but I have come home after many an ordinary

event, only to feel completely smothered by social anxiety. I know what this feels like and it can be

brutal. If you're anything like me, you are currently stuck in your head, replaying events as you saw

them over and over. You're grappling

with the feeling that you said something stupid, or that you were scrambling for words, or that

you might have come across as rude, or committed some social phopat. Or maybe you bumped into someone

you weren't expecting to see and you got all

flustered. All of this happens, it's very common and there is really scarce a

person who hasn't felt it to some degree but it's something that will get

easier with time especially as you're addressing it here. You're already

doing the work.

Overall, it's something you can work on,

but our goal right now is simply to calm down your mind and body and separate the facts from the narrative that your anxious mind is offering you.

Let me tell you something that's true. So much of what you're thinking right now is imagined.

Remember, it's a narrative of your anxious mind is offering you.

You do not have to take it at face value.

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