Becoming Friendly and Fearless in Relationships

Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

Being Well

Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Education, Self-improvement

4.8 • 2.7K Ratings

🗓️ 10 February 2020

⏱️ 48 minutes

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Summary

In our important relationships at home and at work, we need to respect the needs of others while also sticking up for our own. Dr. Daniel Ellenberg joins us today to explore how we can grow the lasting inner resources that allow us to do just that, and ultimately become both “friendly” and “fearless.” About Our Guest: Daniel has been a practicing marriage and family therapist for over 30 years, and is the co-founder of Relationships That Work, and the founder and director of Strength With Heart men’s groups. New Sponsor: Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Key Topics: 2:25: What does it mean to be friendly and fearless. 5:05: “Fear less.” 6:20: Conflating social and physical fear. 9:25: Bringing more awareness into interpersonal conflict. 11:45: Increasing the space between stimulus and response. 13:35: Inter- vs. Intra-personal skills. 15:00: Finding the pause. 19:50: Finding sensitivity, kindness, and warmth in a conflict. 22:15: Loving at will. 24:00: Men, anger, and vulnerability. 28:30: Truly showing interest in others. 31:20: Giving the gift of not fearing others. 33:00: Changing our self-concept. 40:50: A message to our younger self. From Dr. Hanson: The Foundations of Well-Being brings together the lessons of a lifetime of practice into one year-long online program. Podcast listeners can use the code BEINGWELL25 at checkout for an additional 25% off! Please don't hesitate to apply for a scholarship if you're in need. Hardwire lasting change into your mind and heart in just a few minutes a day with Dr. Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price! Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hello and welcome to being well. I'm Forrest Hansen. I'm joined today as usual by Dr.
0:08.6	Rick Hansen, so how are you doing today? I'm pretty good with a cold so if I sound a little weird that's why. Well you're you're
0:15.7	soldiering odd in the face of adversity which we always appreciate around here.
0:19.4	They're going to put on my tombstone, A for effort.
0:22.6	Oh my goodness.
0:23.7	I don't know if that's a groom reflection or a positive one,
0:26.5	but it's one or the other.
0:27.8	Really looking forward to doing this episode today,
0:30.0	which is going to cover what I think is such a rich intersection of both interpersonal skills and intra-personal skills.
0:37.0	In our important relationships at home and at work, we need to respect the needs of others while also sticking up for our own needs.
0:44.3	But that's often easier said than done. And today we're going to be talking about how we can
0:48.1	grow the lasting inner strengths that allow us to do just that, how we can be to put it a certain kind of way,
0:54.4	both friendly and fearless. To help us do that, we have the pleasure of being joined
0:59.2	by a longtime friend of yours and mine, Dr. Daniel Ellenberg.
1:03.4	Before we get to Daniel, I'd like to take a moment to remind you about our new Patreon account.
1:08.4	It's at Patreon.com backslash Being Well Podcast. If you'd like to support the show through Patreon I've included a
1:15.0	link to it in the description of today's episode. It honestly means so much to me
1:19.3	and to Rick as well that the people who listen to the show are willing to extend to us their support.
1:24.8	There are so many different ways for you to access these kinds of mental health resources and
1:29.2	whether you support the show by becoming a patron, telling a friend about it, or really even just
1:34.7	listening, it truly means a lot to us. So that said, on to Daniel. So Daniel has
1:40.0	been practicing marriage and family therapy for over 30 years and is the co-founder
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