Welcome back, team. Connor Beaton here. We're going to dive straight in to how you can develop

emotional intelligence and masculine leadership. Oftentimes for a lot of men, these two things

don't necessarily go hand in hand. You see, most men, myself included,

were taught that leadership is about control, control of others, control of outcomes, and oftentimes,

and sometimes most dangerously, control of emotions. Now, I wrote about this in my book, Men's Work, where I talked about how we as men

are taught that strength, especially psychological and emotional strength, comes through suppression.

So the majority of men that I have worked with are struggling in some way in their career, struggling to lead

themselves, struggling to lead in their relationship, because they're deploying this ineffective

and maladaptive way to deal with their emotions. And maybe this is something that you've fallen

into as well. Many men hear the, you know, the tropes of big boys don't cry and stuff it down and just

deal with it and you're so emotionally, you're too sensitive.

And we see examples of male leadership that seem to be disconnected and almost disassociated

from any type of emotionality.

And there's been this portrayal that if you're going to be a man that is a leader,

you should be somewhat emotionless and that you need to be able to have your emotions under

control. Now, that isn't necessarily incorrect in the sense that we don't want our emotions to,

you know, napalm out and nuke our life and destroy our relationships.

And it's not that we want our emotions to have complete control over our life.

It's simply that the way that we are taught to deal with our emotions to have complete control over our life. It's simply that the way that we are taught

to deal with our emotions is through the vehicle of suppression, through stuffing it down,

numbing them out, ignoring them completely. And emotions in the lens that I'm about to give them to

you, emotions are just another data set.

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