Welcome to Let It Be Easy with Susie Moore.

Is your partner or your co-worker or your best friend or your teenager kind of down or grumpy or moody or stressed out right now? Is there someone in your life who you're close to, whose

stress you can just feel yourself absorbing? Maybe they're short with you, maybe they're cut, maybe they, you can feel their anxiety

based on just how they kind of walk through the house or walk through the office and you

almost like biosmosis take it on and you want to soothe that person, you want them to feel better so that you can feel better.

I know this very well. I can feel very much what those around me are feeling and if someone is stressed

out or anxious or unhappy or disgruntled, my natural instinct is to want to ameliorate that somehow. I want to relieve the burden, I want to make

it a happy environment, I want to do whatever it is I can to lift the mood and lift the energy.

But through my own research and understanding I have come to learn that there is a much better way. It's simpler and the best news is you're in control of this. You're never going to be in

control of the mood or emotions of another person. The magic trick my friends is this. Be happy yourself. Be the real life role model of how a human being can go through this world.

If my husband is stressed out, yes, I feel it, right?

His stress can feel like my stress, but it's not.

And it's also not my job to fix his stress.

I can of course be listening ear, I can ask questions, I can help, if there's something practical that I'm able to do that's useful

absolutely but the best thing I can do is be happy busy and focused on my own stuff. We can't give from this scared place. We have

nothing to offer when we're approaching a situation trying to fix it.

That's coming from fear.

That's coming from needing to be soothed.

We have loads to give though when we're engaged in life,

when we're happy, when our days are going well,

when we're doing the work on ourselves on our own minds, remaining focused.

The most generous thing we can give to someone who needs some support is our own well-being.

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