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The other day I spoke about mothers.

Some of you might have heard the talk.

It was a Friday talk in Cape Town.

You won't believe it. I got some hate mail, from people saying how on earth would you ever ever say what you said I said I'm so happy and proud that I did because normally I've spoken so many times on children and so on I've spoken two or three times on mothers

What's the big deal if anything I probably didn't do justice to it just because I said you must respect them and be kind to them no matter what what do you mean no matter what I did

make an exception go and listen to the talk don't complain me the reason I'm raising it

here again tonight is because we have to talk about things just because it didn't fit in your example

doesn't mean that I was wrong perhaps your unique situation may warrant something

drastic but that's not the norm, is it?

So if I say, guys, you've got to be kind to your parents

and look after them, did I say something wrong?

Not at all.

But if your parent is an exception where they've been abusive and really toxic and so bad and you've had to go away from them to protect your sanity and that's a different thing. That's an exception. I'm not going to be speaking generalizing regarding exceptions.

I'm going to generalize regarding the norm. What's happening?

So if I were to tell you that you've got to be kind to this person and that person person and I did say you don't have to obey

where they're telling you to do something wrong or if they're being nasty you can address the matter

but just be kind remember that's your mother, that's your father, come what may.

There could be the horriblest people on earth, but it doesn't give you the right to become nasty with them.

You can step back, you can tell them, you can put your foot down you can do whatever you have to

but the only thing is go easy be kind

be kind a lot chose that test for you

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