Welcome to the Black Girl Burnout Podcast. I'm Kelly Bonner, your host, and today I want to speak a word on self-compassion.

It's something I think we as black women have just too little of.

Self-compassion is being able to treat ourselves with tenderness and kindness and forgiveness.

And yet we may find ourselves not doing much of any of those things. Maybe you're at the

end of your year and you're thinking about all the things you can get done. Maybe you're thinking

about the relationships or job position you should be in but haven't. How often did those kinds of thoughts come into your brain?

How often do you think things are just out of your grasp and that there's something fundamentally

wrong with you as to why you're not getting what you want? If you experience any of those thoughts

or having any of those kind of shoulda, coulda, coulda, would have moments,

then you need a lesson in self-compassion, something we all need.

And there is a premier research.

So I'm here today to tell you how to put more self-compassion in your life, to go beyond the negative self-talk,

and to step into ease and grace with yourself.

Kristen Neff, who's one of the premier thinkers in this realm,

talks about three main pillars to conquering self-compassion.

So I'm going to list all three of them.

I'm going to go through those pillars.

And then I'm going to give you a mini assignment, a daily practice that you can put into

place to get yourself thinking about how to inject more self-compassion into your day.

The first pillar she talks about is mindfulness. There's been a lot

talked about what mindfulness is and what it isn't. There has been a lot of information about the

benefits of mindfulness. But today we're going to talk about mindfulness in the context of

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