Welcome to the Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast. Our intention is to awaken, enlighten, enrich, and inspire a simple and uncomplicated life. Discover the benefits of mindful living with your host, Timber Hawkeye.

Once a month I host a live video Q&A on Facebook, during which people from all over the world can tune in and ask questions or spark a discussion about ways to implement some of the concepts from Buddhist boot camp or

faithfully religionless into their daily lives.

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no us. The following is a recording from the August 2017 Q&A where I read the question and

then see what comes up. Enjoy.

Jason Young asked how do you deal with breakups? I don't just do what I feel because

feelings aren't facts and I don't just stick to my head we kind of have a meeting of minds and

heart and decide how to respond. You want to be with someone who wants to be with

you. You want to spend your life with someone who is just as into you as you are

into them. You want to be with someone whose love you don't question, whose trust comes

easily and freely, and you want to be with someone who is as invested in you as you are in them.

The person who broke up with you clearly doesn't want to be with you,

which is, if anything, the response is,

thank you.

Thank you for making it really clear for me that you're not the one I want to be with because the person I want to be with

would want to be with me and you're not that one.

It's a very logical approach, but that seems to work for me when the heart wants to spiral out of control, the minds, you know,

come back, come back, come back, come back, heart, let's look at this from another perspective,

because that's what ends up happening whether it be through

breakups or any political climate is we get really wrapped up in one single point of view and

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