Kirsten Beske is a clinical psychotherapist and mindset coach having spent over a decade learning about human experience and fostering personal growth. She willingly shares the professional knowledge, wisdom, and skills that she has acquired throughout her career with those ready for the next level of change and transformation. However, Kirsten's personal transformation story is truly moving – from lawyer to psychotherapist, straight-identified to gay-identified, and drinking to sobriety provides lessons in inspiration, hope, and real-life resilience. Listen & Subscribe on: iTunes / Stitcher / Podbean / Overcast / Spotify Contact Info Website: http://apropositive.com Most Influential Person Pema Chodron Effect on Emotions The emotion of anger is the one that gets the most interesting when you can take a little bit of separation from it and can understand what's going on underneath it. I always find the most information if I feel the flash of anger it's always like a note to be curious, and [ask myself], what's going on here and try to figure out more. Having that ability to get the space to be reflective in those moments is really important for learning about yourself. Thoughts on Breathing Breathing as an anchor, I wish it wasn't as important as it is because it seems so basic. I use it all the time because it's one of those things that you can use and no one knows you're doing it. When I find myself in a high stress situation and I need to relax, (but I can't run up and down stairs or do pushups, which is another way of releasing some energy), breathing is absolutely my go-to secret weapon to help me start to settle down. Suggested Resources Book: A Path With Heart by Jack Kornfield App: Dharma Seed Dharma Talks / Headspace / Calm / Insight Timer Bullying Story I always have been the fighter of bullies and when I went into law I wanted to be the protector of anyone who was being bullied. I've never felt that I've been the victim of bullying and I don't think that I've been a bully. However, I absolutely have stood up for more than a few people who I felt were being bullied. The mindfulness piece was the centeredness of my conviction of what was right. Even at a young age I had what it took to step in and tell people to knock it off, especially when the victims did not have the resources available to them [to look out for themselves] For me, it comes from the bystander intervention standpoint, the courage to step in when you needed to because things weren't right. It took some centering to do what I needed to do, even if there was going to be some pushback. Related Episodes 026 Sharon Roemmel: Erase Pain and Find Your True Purpose With Yoga 101 Mindfulness is My Diet Focusing On Nothing But Positive Thoughts; Olympic Boxer Daniel Hayes 169 Gay Pride, Mindfulness and Bullying Talk With Dear Mattie Host, Matt Marr Our Sponsor Use hypnosis to help others stop struggling with their deep-rooted issues like weight loss, smoking, painful experiences. Are you a coach or a healer who would love to have new skills to help your clients? Hypnosis can help people reach goals faster and easier than you thought possible. Become a hypnotherapist. The Cascade Hypnosis Center offers world-class training. www.CascadeHypnosisCenter.com Special Offer Have you been trying to lose weight? Are you discouraged? It’s not hopeless. YOU CAN DO IT. I coach people just like you. I’m Bruce Langford, a practicing hypnotist, and you will get results with my help! I personally lost 35 pounds and I’ve kept it off thanks to hypnosis. Feel good and look good. Believe it. Watch my short video and get 5 Tips on How To Lose Weight For Good. Then book a Free Consultation to get you on the road to permanent weight loss. Join our Beta offer and get 50% off. Go to www.MindfulnessMode.com/weightloss