Thank you for listening to the Allender Center podcast.

I'm Dr. Dan Allender.

And I'm Rachel Clinton-Cent.

We're fiercely committed to providing hope and healing to a fragmented world.

And restoration for the heart.

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Let's get this conversation started.

Thank you for joining us. Let's get this conversation started. Rachel, I want to ask you a question. I'm not sure I've ever asked you, but let me set up why I'm asking you in a moment.

And that is, I'm going to ask you, how would some of your very good friends describe me?

I don't want you to come to this series without at least having a few seconds to ponder that.

How would your good friends describe you? And equally, I'll attempt to do the same.

But I also want you to hear for me the words I would use to describe you, and I would ask the same.

I want you to do the same. So here's the question. Are we aware when we walk into a room, when we're

interacting with a friend or a stranger, that the impact we have is related to a kind of gravity we each bring into the world?

And we're going to call that a style of relating.

And gravity, in some sense, as I have at least looked at Wikipedia, says that it's basically

related to mass and movement.

How thick are you?

And how quickly do you move in the world?

And on the basis of that, there is a kind of gravitas, a gravity that shapes the effect we have on other people.

And this notion of style of relating basically boils down to if you don't know the impact you make in the world, then you're going to continue to have an effect, but without ever being able to shape it to a better good or without having

a heart to actually engage it where it's really problematic. So we're into this category,

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