And now it's time to Ask the Shrink.

Hey, welcome to this bonus episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy.

This is Ask the Shrink, where I answer

questions from you, the listener. And this question is all about conversation, confidence, and

connecting, which is a theme we've been doing as we've been building up to the super early bird

and now during the super early bird for the supremely confident conversation master event.

So we have just a few more days to claim that ticket.

If you haven't done that already, I would love to see you in Portland for that. You can find out

about that at shrink for the shy guy.com under this episode or go to social confidence center.com

and check out our events there. So here's the question. I can start conversations and even keep them going. The challenge

for me is engagement. Either I'm just going through the motions, but not really that interested,

or it seems like they're doing that. It's a nice, friendly conversation, but it never leads beyond that.

Oof, I can relate to this one.

This is where I spent many years.

And there are so many circumstances that can create this.

And so I'm going to share what I can in this answer.

And of course, for a full unpacking and just the level of depth we can get into,

I highly recommend coming to see me in Portland for the Conversation Master event.

And you will leave that just a total understanding of conversations,

why they're engaging, why they're not.

But let me give you some answers now that will help you immediately today.

So a couple of things.

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