Welcome to the awesome marriage podcast. I'm your co-host, Christina Dodson. This is an Ask

Dr. Kim segment where people submit their questions for Dr. Kim Kim, and he answers them.

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Today on Ask Dr. Kim, the question is, what do you do when you want space and time away from

your spouse? So, you know, in talking about this,

this is not talking about an actual separation here, but just talking about like, you know,

spending a little bit of time away from each other to refresh and rejuvenate and just,

you know, get some space. So is it okay to even want this, Dr. Pam? Is it okay to want time away

and space from your spouse? I think the answer is yes,

but I'd put it about with it just a little bit, you know, is it for the right reason? I think we all need,

there's a, just part of us, we need some time alone. We need time alone with God. We certainly

talk about time intentionally together as a couple with God, but we need time alone with God.

We need time alone with God.

We need time alone just kind of for our own self.

And I think for me, what I've seen over time, it's made our marriage better. If we can both have time away, we spend it well doing the things we need to do, and then we can come back to our marriage.

But if you're wanting space away because you're just not dealing with stuff in your marriage that you probably need to do and then we can come back to our marriage. But if you're wanting space away because

you're just not dealing with stuff in your marriage that you probably need to deal with,

then I would say, no, that's probably not the best thing. What we're talking about is just that

we all need a little alone time. And it's okay to have that. Yeah, absolutely. And one other thing

that I see happening a lot is just if you're dealing with a lot emotionally

or something, you know, something happened at work that just like really stresses you out.

Some people really need a lone time after that to kind of de-stress or just think about things.

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