Welcome to the awesome marriage podcast, a place for honest conversations about marriage and practical advice on how to have a God-honoring awesome marriage.

I am your podcast producer and co-host Christina Dodson.

On the show will be your host, Dr. Kim Kimberling.

Dr. Kim is a marriage counselor and has been married for over 40 years.

His passion is to help you strengthen your most

intimate relationship. Today I'm asked Dr. Kim. The question is, waiting to have sex before

marriage. Here's me, what do I do? So just some context behind this, the person who submitted

this, they have had sex in the past. They have children from a previous relationships, but now they are a Christian and in a Christian relationship and he wants to

wait to have sex before getting married because he wants to do it God's way.

But she's afraid, which is legit.

You know, she's wondering, is there another reason he doesn't have sex before marriage?

What if he's bad in bed?

What if there's something strange going on that I'm not aware about when it comes to intimacy?

And then he's surprised on the honeymoon night, all the things.

So Dr. Kim, what encouragement do you have for this woman?

One, I think God has answers to all of that.

I've had couples, I've had couples say that that have been sold before marriage of the same thing, but they're both kind of single.

What if we don't, what if we don't click in bed and that kind of stuff?

I don't think that's a problem.

I think if you're in love with each other, you've got the equipment, God's going to help you do that.

Now, would you have to talk about it?

Do you have to communicate and figure out what you like and don't like and what works and not work?

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