Welcome to the awesome marriage podcast. I'm your co-host, Christina Dodson. This is an Ask

Dr. Kim segment where people submit their questions for Dr. Kim Kim, and he answers them.

Thanks for listening.

Welcome to the Ask Dr. Kim segment of the Awesome Marriage podcast. Today, our question is should

married couples wait and be married for a while before

having kids? What a great question. And I feel like everybody thinks this, right? Is there a perfect

time? What is your general recommendation, Dr. Kim? What do you think? Well, I think ideally it is

to wait, to have time to get to know each other better. Sometimes that's not possible.

We have a lot of second marriages, and so a lot of times those will happen. There'll be kids in the

house from the beginning. I've had couples, I had a couple that came to prep for margues.

They had gotten married, and they were doing prep for marriage a couple of months after their

marriage and figured out part of what have we through the

class that she was pregnant. And so we've been talking about things in marriage about how important

is to wait and everything. So they came to me before class one day. And so we just found out she's

pregnant. Are we doomed? And I said, no, you just can't have to be very, very purposeful about the things

we're talking about in this class to follow

through and do them. Because when you have a child, you've got three people in family. You've got

one that's very, very needy, can't do anything by themselves. And so that takes a lot of time and

energy at a time when you were planning on building your relationship, building your marriage,

those kind of things. Yeah, that is a good point.

So let's talk about that a little bit.

What are obviously like, you know, you can't control every circumstance and God can make any

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